You don't NEED save the dates..

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Not sure what your point is here…?  I’m pretty sure most people know that any component of a wedding is a matter of choice/preference.  I wasn’t going to do save the dates but my fiance panicked about friends getting booked up with other things, so we are going to send save the dates.  I designed them in an hour and they are costing less than $30, i.e. less than one of our entrees if we go out to dinner. 

Post # 3
1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We didn’t have a destination wedding and our save the date’s were super cheap, so it wasn’t a big deal. Plus, lots of our circle, although local, have jobs where getting work off is rare if it’s not done months and months in advance. Save the dates are not just for destination weddings.

Post # 4
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Meh, mine were around $20? I designed them myself and used VistaPrint to produce the post cards. I did have almost all out of town guests (though most in-state). 

People can do what they want with their money. Those who are really strapped for cash will know to cut costs somewhere, and I think they know save the dates is one of those ways.

Post # 5
844 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

OP that is definitely a true statement…. but I guess you can say the same thing about half of the things people spend on weddings…. you don’t “need” flowers or chair covers or a bridal party, etc, to get married but people get it because that is what they want for the special day. Technically, you don’t need to have a wedding at all to get married, just you–the spouse– witnesses –the court house–and there you have it 🙂 Planning a wedding is a very exciting time for most brides and they have an idea of how they want things on their day…. But like you stated, to each their own…. I can’t say that I remember where the STDs are that I have received over time but they definitely were pretty 🙂

Post # 7
5222 posts
Bee Keeper

I think with a lot of online avenues these days, STD’s are actually really affordable and I ( personally) like to receive them because of scheduling conflicts. I don’t know about everyone else, but we are right in the middle of ” every single person we know is getting married”… the little postcards go up on the fridge so we can budget/prepare even if it is just an in town wedding or one that doesn’t require too much travel.

I know everyone likes different things, but I would rather a bride spend $$ on a Save the Date so that I can actually make an attempt to attend over some personalized shot glass or something as  takeaway gift at the reception. 

Post # 11
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You don’t have to spend money on them…we designed a nice image to put in an email and sent it to everyone.  I think if you want to ensure most of the people you want to attend are able to, giving them an official notice of when it’s going to be is very helpful.  Especially as we are having a summer wedding and people often book family vacations, etc. it just wouldn’t be practical to not have some sort of head’s up of when the wedding would be until sending the invitations out.  Sending a card/postcard or email is a very easy way to do it.  Granted, most people would hear about it before then but an STD says hey, this is when the wedding will be, and yes, you are going to be invited!

Post # 11
858 posts
Busy bee

I agree! Definitely personal preference. But iits amazing how many people think its a must because its wedding ettiquette. As long as you send out your invitations in a timely manner!

Post # 13
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

100% of my guests are OOT, so we sent them.  Ours have our picture on it.  We sent them to our local guests too (FI’s family) because we knew they’d love a picture of us.  So it worked out either way for us! 

But I do agree that the wedding industry has declared them as “must haves,” even though they aren’t…

Post # 14
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

STDs are just another way the wedding industry gets you to shell out more money

MichiganGirl24:  This statement is true for all parts of weddings.  Really, no one NEEDS to have a wedding dress, limo, flowers, etc, the only essential thing is a good marriage.

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