You gave WHO a plus one?! -vent

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

TBH I think that immediate family always gets a plus one. Sorry but I agree with your FI on this one. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I disagree with your fiancé. I don’t think your brother needs a plus one in this instance. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m with you, my FI is doing the same stupid thing.  Except for his cousins and his friends.  MY side doesn’t get a +1 unless you are in a serious committed relationship. How do I explain this to my side, that his side is special?  Lamesauce.

How does it work with your FI’s brother, if he’s not dating someone he still gets to bring someone?  Oy!  Hopefully he’ll pass, that’s all I can say.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I just don’t get why people, who will know lots of others at a wedding, would even want to bring a plus one along who is not an actual partner. I wouldn’t want to babysit someone at a wedding all night who doesn’t know anyone else there.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I mean, I feel like I would extend siblings plus ones regardless of their status…

But only after clearing it with my FI first.

He kinda jumped the gun on that.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sofialovesmikey:  THAT’S SO STUPID! Whatever rules people want to throw out about etiquette, it does not change the fact that YOU HAVE A BUDGET. omfg. You can’t just bend the rules and go into debt for this nonsense! And the fact that your fi did this WITHOUT TALKING T YOU ABOUT IT FIRST boggles my mind!

 

AAAAAAAAAAAAAUGH!

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

Well it is your FI’s wedding too so if he wants to extend a +1 to his brother shouldn’t you give him latitude to do so? The relationship between two brothers is kind of different to a relationship between a B or G and a friend/guest. In most cases family is for life whilst friends can come and go.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t know what it is with everyone and all this “etiquette on plus-ones” thing. You have a budget.  Don’t go over the budget.  Period.  If someone complains say, sorry, we’re on a budget. Always stick to the budget..

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sofialovesmikey:  I’m not taking a side…but I will give this perspective. You don’t care for the brother and he’s rude and selfish. Having someone there that will want to be bothered with him will mean that you don’t have to be bothered with him. If he has a date, maybe he’s more likely to be preoccupied than to be in your face or try to cause any problems. {But I could be wrong because if the new girlfriend is a wacko then you just have two trouble makers on your hands.} Ok. It’s a toss up. Good luck.

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