- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
This is what my father said to me tonight when he walked into my home. He said we must really love renting, (with heavy sarcasm) because otherwise we would own a home.
He is such a jerk! I told him I need a co-signer to own right now (neither of my parents have even decent credit, mine is okay, but we are also still going through finishing school and changing careers, we’d like to move again).
It is just so annoying. He argued with me and told me that “No, we must just love renting.”
My family is so irrational and I wish it didn’t bother me. They really get me down. Putting us down, we are never good enough, yet they are without suggestions. I asked him what his suggestion was, why he was saying that, what his angle was (he used to be a lawyer), what purpose is he saying that for (this, this, or this). He wouldn’t tell me, he just kept being sarcastic, like where we are isn’t good enough and it is our fault for beng there.
We work really hard and it just sucks to be around negative people like that. We are thinking of moving. I hate beng made to feel like I am not good enough and put down by my own family.
It is the way they are. I stand up to them, but there is no way to deal with them. I would never walk into someone’s home and put them down.
He also wants to piggie back off me- I am an artist- (read: not exactly a huge money-maker, especially just starting out with teaching and business). He will act like he is going to give me some vacant family land, and then it is for him as well- everything has strings. I think he just puts me down and projects because he isn’t happy with himself or his lot in life right now; I just can’t take it anymore. I think there is no way to deal with him except being a few thousand miles from here.
Thanks, if you are reading this! Sometimes My family sucks. It is like a slave driver- he will put me down, tell me I am not working hard enough (his horrible way of trying to get me to be controlled by him, work harder- so that he can feel like it is his accomplishment.) I think he really wants me to be in a bad place so that I need him. Like I need him to put me down when I am already working hard in order to get me to work harder. (Right…) My mother is the same way. They are like masters of mind “f” ing. Sigh. Any thoughts for difficult family? I think I will just have to distance myself once again.
He was just on house arrest and got nicer because he wanted me to visit, and now that he is out he is like a monster again. He just loves control. It is so hard to have difficult family because I care so much, but they suck the life out of me.