Post # 1
I previously asked this a few months ago because I had 2 weeks of compulsory holidays (I work at a school).
Now here in Aus the school summer holidays are from mid-December to end of January. I managed to find things to do during those previous 2 weeks because I still had my SO, since then I have been dumped and 4 of my closest friends have gone to USA for a holiday. Another friend is off to Asia and another has a boyfriend. I am literally on my own during the summer holidays apart from living with my parents.
I feel really diappointed and upset that I have nothing planned. This is the first time my ex and I had holidays scheduled at the same time (yipee!) and were planning to do heaps together.
Sure I could paint, go learn a new language etc but that is only a few hours in a day.
Please help this lonely soul.
P.S- sorry for whinging , I haven’t been single for 5 years I don’t know what to do with myself
Post # 3
@AussieSummer: I know what I did do, I traveled. Every moment of freedom I had I was traveling the world. If you cannot afford to go out of the country can you perhaps do some local traveling? Get away for a weekend or so just to change things up and make your time off special?
Post # 4
Being a happy hermit, I’d have lots of lovely me time with my hobbies!
I’d also look into all the free stuff where you live like museums, art galleries, parks, nature centers, whatever. If I were lost and wanted to get out (which it kinda sounds like you are, no shame, I think we’ve all been there!) that’s what I’d do and have done!. There’s usually amazing local stuff that’s really cheap or free. And even for a hermit like me sometimes getting out and about is the thing you really need.
You didn’t mention a budget/what you could afford. Having a coffee/drink/meal at a local place every day around the same time can be great. You get out of the house, and if it’s a local place, you often feel like you’re part of something with the regulars and just a routine. It’s my go to when I move somewhere new and need a sense of community. I’ve made some friends that way, but even if I don’t it really does make me feel more like I belong. I hope that makes sense.
If there’s any hobbies you have that have a local group, go to a meetup. Be it sewing or darts or cars or whatever interests you. You usually don’t have to be proficient and own all the stuff already to attend an interest group… so even if you’re just thinking something would be fun go and learn more about it.
Whatever you do I hope you find something and have fun on your time off!
Post # 5
I’d take off on an adventure. Maybe hit up some cool spots in south east asia or go all the way around to south america.
Or head down to New Zealand and do some serious hiking & backpacking. Of course, I don’t know if you are into thru hiking, but you asked what I would do 😉
Post # 6
@AussieSummer: Volunteer. It is a great way to help the community but you will also meet lots of new people as well.
Post # 7
Volunteer or travel. After each breakup I’ve had, I’ve gone travelling, alone; there is absolutely no better why to get reacquiainted with yourself, which is exactly what you need to do after being in a 5-year relationship. Go somewhere you’ve never been, and had no plans to go with your ex.
Being “alone” won’t feel strange at all by the time you get back. Good luck.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Make something. 😀 I wouldn’t mind having two weeks off alone– I’d make a quilt.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@AussieSummer: A guy at my office took a month off to go traveling. He went to China and Costa Rica and a few other places. It sounded pretty awesome.
Can you afford to go to another country and learn the language through classes and immersion for a few weeks?
Post # 10
@AussieSummer: When I got dumped from a long serious relationship I spent my summer learning to ride a motorcycle. It is soooo theraputic! In the US, at least in my state, the written test is like $10 then you take a free training class for a week and have your license. 🙂
I also got a tattoo.
I guess I did things that I “couldn’t” do as a couple. I could’ve done those things, but not without taking someone else’s feeling into consideration. This time I didn’t have to care about anyone’s feelings or have any one else’s input on the decisions I made. I just did what I wanted to do.
It’s hard for a lot of people to understand but when you’ve been functioning as one part of a couple for so long it’s hard to go back to functioning as a single person. All you can think of is stuff you did together or stuff you’d WANT to do together.
So I guess my advice is do something you either wouldn’t be able to do as part of a couple or would have to discuss with your SO first or something except now it is completely your decision and yours alone.
Post # 11
There’s so much I’d do!!! I’m (basically) an only child so I love hanging out by myself.
I’d travel if I have a sizeable budget to play around with, stay home and eat out at a bunch of restaurants I’ve been meaning to try/go shopping if I had a moderate budget, or try out a ton of recipes if I had a small budget. And I’d either get some manicures & pedicures, or do my nails at home. I’d watch movies no one else would enjoy, knit, write, go to events in the city, take a day trip in my ca, take long walks (especially since you guys in the southern hemisphere have nice weather now – lucky you!)…
And mostly I’d read, read, read all the books I normally don’t have time for!
Post # 12
Travel! Depending on your age group and budget, hostels, tour groups, or couch surfing are great way to meet new travel buddies and go on fun adventures.
It might be sad at first to eat lunch or sightsee by yourself, but it’s a great way to remember one of the best parts of being single: doing what you like, pleasing yourself, and not having to always make compromises.
Post # 13
I agree with all the PP, travel! You’re lucky that being in Australia, a lot of South East Asia is relatively easy to get to, and once you’re there it is DIRT cheap to live. If you’re living with your parents anyway you don’t even have to worry about rent. You can go to Thailand and live for a few hundred a month and have a fantastic time. There’s a wonderful community of travelers there too so you don’t have to worry about being lonely! Just check into a hostel and ask if anyone wants to go to happy hour :).
Post # 14
I’m going to agree with the other bees – travel! Go someplace you’ve always wanted to go! You don’t get many chances in your adult life to just take 4 weeks off from work/school and not have any other obligations – take advantage of it!!
Post # 15
@AussieSummer: I would travel, explore new places, and look into hobbies I have always wanted to pursue but never had the time to.
I would also try to see family and friends that I wouldn’t ordinarily be able to see due to scheduling conflicts or distance etc.
How exciting to have all this free time, Enjoy & Make the best of it!
Post # 16
travel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i’m borderline jealous of your situation!!! travelling solo is the most incredible/rewarding/unreal experience.