- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Me and FI havent even told people a date we’re getting married yet (we still havent 100% decided) and we’re already getting drama from people.
First people just decided to invite themselves. One of my aunts requested me on FB a few months ago. I’ve only met her twice and the last time I saw her I was only 6. She never sent me a message or tried to talk to me or anything on FB. Now suddenly she’s sending me messages asking when the wedding is, where it will be, giving me her address so I can be sure to get the invite to her. Um. HOLD UP. I basically do not know you. Nobody in our family associates with you. I wouldnt even know you’re face if I saw you. You’re not invited. Then several customers started acting like they were automatically invited. EXCUSE ME? I may be friendly to you when you come in my store, but I DONT EVEN KNOW YOU. How are you just gonna invite yourself to a wedding of someone you see in a store a couple of times a week?
Then it became known that we’re not planning on serving alcohol at the reception. Several people have flat out told me that its my responsibility to provide alcohol, and its both cheap and selfish for us to not serve it. EXCUSE ME?? I’m already spending thousands of dollars on my wedding, including profinding a catered meal, free water/soft drinks, a candy bar and possibly a dessert bar, PLUS favors…. And I’m being cheap because I wont give you free booze?
My wedding is not some nice fancy party for you to just come eat and get drunk. If anyone feels that they cannot come to a wedding for someone they care for without having free alcohol, then I’d honestly rather then not come at all.
We actually have reasons for not serving alcohol. The first is because we’re getting married on a Sunday and FI does not drink alcohol on Sundays. Holy day and all that. The second is because my mom, her bf, my dad and my step mom are all going to be there. Together. In the same area. My mom has never met my step mom (by choice) and my dad has never met her bf. Both my dad and moms bf have aggressive personalities at the best of times and add alcohol into that and one of them would be leaving on an ambulence. My mom also becomes unpredictable with even just one drink and it would just be a bad situation all around.
But no, apparently we’re selfish and cheap for not having free booze.
Ugh. Now I remember why I wanted to elope a couple of months ago.