(Closed) You have GOT to be kidding me.

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds quite rough for you right now. Can you move back home with parents, or relatives until you can secure job there, or would you prefer to stay in the city you are currently in? I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, and every mistake, or bad deed done to you, will work itself out in the end. I know it sounds ridiculous at a time like this though. Hang in there. Whatever you decide to do, goodluck.

Post # 4
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Major hugs. I’m so sorry, it sounds like you’re in a terrible rough patch right now. :*(

Post # 5
2316 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Old Stone House in Brookyn

That sucks. Frown Do you still have a lot of time on your lease? If you’re stuck in this city for a while you could try to find a group to join on MeetUp to make local friends and “network”. Most of the groups are cheap or free.

Post # 6
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh wow, I’m so sorry to hear about the trouble you’re going through! I was in a similar situation when I broke up with my ex-fiance almost 6 years ago. I ended up moving from Indiana to FL because of it, but it ended up being the best decision I ever made. I know it seems crazy right now, but it’ll get better 🙂 What sort of industry are you in?

Post # 8
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

(((HUGS)))).  YOUR NOT A FAILURE.  Life is just throwing you for a loop right now.  Been there and it Blows big time.  File Unemployment and fight any denials by your company.  Talk to your landlord and work something out and if you can’t stay, reach out to a lawyer to discuss how to break your lease.  Start networking again.  Reach out to your friends and setup some friend dates.  Hell, you may even go out on a date or two.  It’s gonna work out.  (((Hugs)))

Post # 9
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Have you considered waiting tables or something for extra money while you search for another daytime job? I used to wait tables on the weekends, and made really good money.  Those jobs are usually pretty easy to find.

Post # 10
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

wow, I’m so sorry, that’s a whole lot of piled up crappiness! Get connected to some temporary services–they often lead to full time. Maybe you can get a roommate and find a new social group through them? or maybe a church if you’re open to that? It sucks to not have any support. You’ll get through it, don’t give up.

Post # 11
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Big hugs to you! I know it’s a hard time but you will get through it and it will make you stronger.

I’ve been through a similar situation in that I ended a long-term relationship (7 years), kicked the guy out, was making it on my own then fired/laid off from my job. It was actually a mutual split with the job but they were giving me time to find a new job. They thought I had found something and hit he point where they needed to bring someone in before the busy time of year. They hired someone and I found out the same day I didn’t get the other job. Meanwhile I had NO friends. My ex had been emotionally abusive and because of him I hadn’t been able to make friends as an adult. I felt all alone and had no idea what I was going to do.

BUT (you knew there was a but coming right?) I got through it. I searched for a job and got excited about the prospect of finding a new job I would love. I started running just to get myself out of the house. I joined meet-up (someone else suggested that already) and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. I found a group of girls who I became great friends with and we’ve had so many wonderful times together. More importantly, I found myself.

That all sounds so cliche I realize. But just know, we’ve ALL been there at some point or another. You always have the bee to chat with. Try to keep a postive outlook and things will turn around.

P.S. Sorry this was so long.

Post # 12
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It’s hard out there – no matter what-but you will perservere.  At least that’s what I keep telling myself. LOL.  (((Hugs)))  It will be okay. 

Post # 13
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Diet Coke:  What state are you in?  Were you able to print off any emails that document your good performance?  (Or can you log in and do it now?)  This company may try to fight you if you file for unemployment (since it costs them money), so document, document, document.

Post # 14
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oooh I’m sorry!   Life seems to be piling on the blows all over the place.

If you ever need to chat shoot me a message.  We also moved to a new city and have no friends.  It’s awful and so, so lonely!

Post # 15
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry–when it rains it pours. I know it’s lonely and sucky and stressful to feel stuck and unemployed. But you truely have the world and it’s bountiful opportunities in front of you. Give yourself a few days to wallow, eat ice cream and watch bad TV. Then pull yourself up and make a game plan. I second the Temp route. I found a great job once doing that. Don’t give up on dating (keep doing the on-line stuff and chat with people just to stay social and remember OKCupid is free).

Good Luck!

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