You know… Waiting really sucks

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Hang in there!

Maybe he wants it to be a surprise?

Or maybe he has the impression that the two of you can go to the store together when in America in December and look/purchase then?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MissCoffeeBean:  Don’t get discouraged just yet. If you two are on the same page, I’m sure it will happen. Maybe not in February 2014, but shortly thereafter. Also, guys are clueless – are you SURE he knows what the turnaround time is on picking the ring/ordering/receiving the ring? I had to tell my DH point blank, “You need 3-4 weeks from order time to delivery time FYI so plan accordingly.” He wouldn’t have known otherwise. 🙂

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Aww, I’m sorry…I can see how you’d feel really dissapointed. If you’re absolutely positive that  he hasn’t bought the ring, have you spoke with him about this? Why set a February deadline if he didn’t plan on following through with it?

Is there any way he could have arranged for the company to ship the ring overseas to your place instead of his moms? Maybe to surprise you??

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@MissCoffeeBean:  Okay, well if you promised not to speak with him about it because he wants it to be a surprise to you, then I would give him until the deadline to surprise you. Maybe he has something up his sleeve! He set the deadline and I’m sure he hasn’t just forgot about it (lets hope!)

I’d give him until February and if nothing happens, then you have every right at that point to bring it up wtih him and tell him you feel dissapointed and hurt.

Hang in there! With the holidays coming up I’m sure February will be here before you know it! 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Men can be so clueless.  FI’s jaw dropped when he was told it could up to 5 weeks for custom orders, resizing, engraving, etc.  I guess this is an opportunity to learn patience! Sealed

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

@MrsNewDay:  +1!!!

 

Guys are really clueless as to how much they need. My SO is sort of in the same boat as urs. He purchased the ring already BUT he is planning on changing the band. My timeline is till Dec 31st of this year. Now thats less then 4 weeks away. Ive already told him that it takes time…but he is till saying that i shouldn worry. lol.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

@MissCoffeeBean:  aw thank you so much!!! if you dont mind me asking how are you guys?

I been dating my SO for 10 years. I am now 25 and he is 27. We have been talking about marriage since i was 20…lol but of course we were too young and still hadnt finish school and what not. But it also took him a while to really just go for it. It honestly took a break up for him to realize what he wanted. He will also be the first guy out of his group to be engaged and married. I think tthat this may have been a reason why he was a bit scare lol or maybe a little bit anxious about the whole engagement. But thank goodness we are passed it. Guys are usually a bit slower then us in trying to figure out and have a plan. About a year ago we had a talk…he initiated but i was glad he did. We talked about what we both wanted in life in general and also what we both wanted to accomplish together. Even though what we both wanted was to be with each other it was nice to hear out loud.  Maybe talking to him can work…and just be very honest with him…if you have done this already perhaps reminding him of how you feel can also be helpful. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar

@MissCoffeeBean:  lol. like order right now! haha i know what you mean.

We talked about marriage when we were both 17…we were both heading in the same direction…or else we would have not been together this long lol but i think serioulsy talk about it as in like set a timline. Last year. There were certain things that we wanted to do before getting married…like finish school..he wanted to live in another state…i wanted to travel teh world on my own!! we both made these two things happen between our early 20’s and now 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

I hear you @MissCoffeeBean:  

I thought my timeline was way sooner, but I’m still waiting and we had a conversation over the weekend that makes me think I’m going to be waiting AWHILE because we just bought a house. 

The house came sooner than planned, and I am a little bummed that it has affected our engagement timeline so drastically. 

Trying to be grateful about the house and trust it’ll happen when it’s meant to! I am not going to lie, I was really upset on Sunday when our timeline changed sooooo much. 

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