Post # 1
OK tacky question time, tell me about how much cash you got as wedding girts:
What percentage of your guests bought off the registry, and what percentage gave money?
How much would most people who chose to give cash give? What did you total?
For context, could you please let us number of guests and regional/cultural information if you feel comfortable? (For example I’ve heard that Northeastern and Asian families traditionally give cash, and that monetary gifts are practically unheard of in the South.)
Our families are of European descent and are from California and Minnesota, though the wedding is in Oregon. I haven’t really heard anything about cash gift normes for those groups, but I’m interested to hear everyone’s experiences!
Post # 3
Curious about this too! Glad you have the guts to start this thread 🙂
Post # 4
I am also curious. Posting to follow.
Post # 5
OK I just changed the title so married bees would see it just FYI 🙂
Post # 6
I’ll do my best to remember here, as well as try to get percentages right!
Husband and I are both from/live in the Midwest, of western European descent (aka, we’re Caucasian). Were both fairly young when we got married, 21 and 19. We invited around 170 guests, and I’d say around 125 showed (73ish%), but some more trickled in for the reception. Of those roughly 125, I’d say there were probably 15 kids, ages 13 and under.
It was probably about 50% bought off of our registry, 40% gave cash or a gift card, and then just loving support from the other 10%.
The largest cash amount we got was $300, and the smallest was $20 (including gift cards to either certain stores or those Visa gift cards good most anywhere). Most were between the $25 to $50 range, with a few generous family members with $100. I think total monetary gifts were probably around $3,000, give or take.
I guess around here it is fairly common to give cash as a wedding gift. Or some guests will do a smaller item off of the registry, as well as a monetary sum that the couple can use for whatever. I didn’t care if we got a gift off of the registry, money, or nothing, so long as people showed up!
Post # 7
About 80% was cash/checks since we traveled for our wedding. Total received was about $11,000
Post # 8
I feel the need to qualify that I come from an asian family, and in asian cultures, it is customary to give money. So we received gifts, but at least 50% of our gifts were cash gifts!
Post # 9
not sure of the percentage…but as far as monetary wedding gifts (Excluding prepaid Visa’s), we received a total of $28,800 (200 person wedding, some people didn’t give any gifts though)..in NY.
I will say that the “type” of wedding you have also likely dictates the “type” of gift some will give..apparently a lot of people bring blank checks to weddings and fill out the cards at the table…
Our wedding was very formal.
Post # 10
Only 2 gifts ere off registry, one from an aunt who lives in a small town that didn’t have the stores, and one from my grandma who gave us pillow cases she embroidered (<3 her). About 1/3 of gifts were cash, checks, or GC’s. I think we got $750 in cash and a few more hundred in checks and abut $150 in GC’s.
Post # 11
Given my South Asian culture, most ppl exchange sizeable monetary gifts.
Post # 12
The vast majority of our guests gave us gifts from our registries. A few others gave us gift cards. We received a little less than $2,000 in cash.
ETA: Since others are providing more detail, I will note that we invited about 212 guests, and 148 attended. We had a formal, black-tie optional, evening wedding at a gorgeous mansion and served a plated dinner of filet of beef and shellfish, following an hors d’oeuvres hour with heavy, passed and stationery hors d’oeuvres.
Post # 13
90ish guests, we ended up with like $2200 in cash and maybe a dozen boxed gifts. We got a sizable chunk of cash from his dad too, but I didn’t include that since he wasn’t really a “guest”.
Post # 14
Northeast, more than 74% of guests gave cash, and we got probably $7000 in cash gifts
Post # 15
I’m from the south and about 40% of our guests gave nothing. We got about 4k total and $2k was from parents (as a contribution to the overall wedding). We had a small registry, but only got about ten presents from the registry. For reference, we had about 100 ppl attend and I didnt have a shower.
Post # 16
Northeast, 130 guests, $1800 in cash, maybe 50% bought off the registry, 25% went off registry, 10% gave cash, and 15% didn’t give a gift.