Attn: Married Bees, we're dying to know…

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Married bees, give us the story on cash gifts!
    Under $1,000 in total cash gifts : (16 votes)
    10 %
    $1,000-$2,000 in total cash gifts : (16 votes)
    10 %
    $2,000-$5,000 in total cash gifts : (25 votes)
    15 %
    $5,000-10,000 in total cash gifts : (35 votes)
    21 %
    Northwest : (7 votes)
    4 %
    Southwest : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Midwest : (14 votes)
    9 %
    South : (15 votes)
    9 %
    Northeast : (32 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Curious about this too! Glad you have the guts to start this thread 🙂 

    Post # 4
    1234 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I am also curious. Posting to follow.

    Post # 6
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’ll do my best to remember here, as well as try to get percentages right!

    Husband and I are both from/live in the Midwest, of western European descent (aka, we’re Caucasian). Were both fairly young when we got married, 21 and 19. We invited around 170 guests, and I’d say around 125 showed (73ish%), but some more trickled in for the reception. Of those roughly 125, I’d say there were probably 15 kids, ages 13 and under.

    It was probably about 50% bought off of our registry, 40% gave cash or a gift card, and then just loving support from the other 10%.

    The largest cash amount we got was $300, and the smallest was $20 (including gift cards to either certain stores or those Visa gift cards good most anywhere). Most were between the $25 to $50 range, with a few generous family members with $100. I think total monetary gifts were probably around $3,000, give or take.


    I guess around here it is fairly common to give cash as a wedding gift. Or some guests will do a smaller item off of the registry, as well as a monetary sum that the couple can use for whatever. I didn’t care if we got a gift off of the registry, money, or nothing, so long as people showed up!

    Post # 7
    1414 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    About 80% was cash/checks since we traveled for our wedding. Total received was about $11,000

    Post # 8
    30284 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I feel the need to qualify that I come from an asian family, and in asian cultures, it is customary to give money.  So we received gifts, but at least 50% of our gifts were cash gifts!

    Post # 9
    223 posts
    Helper bee

    not sure of the percentage…but as far as monetary wedding gifts (Excluding prepaid Visa’s), we received a total of $28,800 (200 person wedding, some people didn’t give any gifts though) NY.

    I will say that the “type” of wedding you have also likely dictates the “type” of gift some will give..apparently a lot of people bring blank checks to weddings and fill out the cards at the table…

    Our wedding was very formal.


    Post # 10
    2291 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    Only 2 gifts ere off registry, one from an aunt who lives in a small town that didn’t have the stores, and one from my grandma who gave us pillow cases she embroidered (<3 her). About 1/3 of gifts were cash, checks, or GC’s. I think we got $750 in cash and a few more hundred in checks and abut $150 in GC’s.

    Post # 11
    2311 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Given my South Asian culture, most ppl exchange sizeable monetary gifts. 

    Post # 12
    10877 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    The vast majority of our guests gave us gifts from our registries. A few others gave us gift cards. We received a little less than $2,000 in cash.

    ETA:  Since others are providing more detail, I will note that we invited about 212 guests, and 148 attended. We had a formal, black-tie optional, evening wedding at a gorgeous mansion and served a plated dinner of filet of beef and shellfish, following an hors d’oeuvres hour with heavy, passed and stationery hors d’oeuvres.


    Post # 13
    6959 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    90ish guests, we ended up with like $2200 in cash and maybe a dozen boxed gifts. We got a sizable chunk of cash from his dad too, but I didn’t include that since he wasn’t really a “guest”.

    Post # 14
    2431 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Northeast, more than 74% of guests gave cash, and we got probably $7000 in cash gifts

    Post # 15
    1007 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m from the south and about 40% of our guests gave nothing. We got about 4k total and $2k was from parents (as a contribution to the overall wedding). We had a small registry, but only got about ten presents from the registry. For reference, we had about 100 ppl attend and I didnt have a shower.

    Post # 16
    4402 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Northeast, 130 guests, $1800 in cash, maybe 50% bought off the registry, 25% went off registry, 10% gave cash, and 15% didn’t give a gift. 

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