- 6 years ago
This actually is on topic dispite the title of the thread haha.
So had a text convo with another friend who’s planning on popping the question to his girlfriend and in said convo he said that’s started saving for my ring which he has picked out 100% (http://www.etsy.com/listing/105813617/300ct-morganite-diamond-engagement-ring) here it is 🙂
Eeeeeeek so super excited BUT then whole excitement totally ruined by the following phrases and the fact that it’s that time of the month LOL;
1. She insisted on helping look through rings
2. she’s very specific with jewelry and doesn’t like 95% of what’s out there
3. I surely would’ve failed on my own
WTF…. enter PMS attitude!!!
I never, ever insisted on looking through rings together all I said was “do you want ideas from me” and he said No. to which I said… OKAY. because it is OKAY. Then HE said “well just tell if there’s anything you absolutely don’t want” So i waited a whole month or so before sending him my size and the rule of no yellow gold. Not ONE day after i sent him my size and such he says “yeah about the whole engagement ring thing, i actually want you input becuase eff getting you something you have to pretend to like”
HE ASKED ME TO HELP HIM LOOK!
We spent that night looking back and forth at like 10 rings randomly found on the internet getting ideas for style, color, etc. and it got to like 4am and we just said let’s go to bed we’ll finish some other time. In the process of us sending rings back and forth he made a comment like good thing he asked me for my input because the past rings he sent I was meh about…but only because he was showing them to me before hand. I told him this and said if you had proposed with ANY of the rings you’ve shown me I would LOVE LOVE LOVE them because it came from you. Anyways, I said goodnight and DIDN’T ASK OR TRY TO BRING IT UP ONCE after! in fact i spent 99% of my time “ring researching” looking up rings for HIM! Because I want him to have a unique, special ring. Even if I have quite some time to look. I want it to be the best option out there so I’m going to look for a while. I sent him pictures of rings sometimes but they were always male rings never female.
About 2 months later we were in the living room chilling and he says “You know we need to finish ring shopping” to which I said “No, that’s okay, we don’t have to do that now.”
I’ve also told him repeatedly that i’m not a jewelry person so this just means that it’s EASIER for him. I don’t have a preferance either way so he can’t go wrong! Not the other way around that i’m so picky at jewelry no one could get it right! I just loose it a lot so I don’t wear it. It’s not like I don’t wear it because I think all of it sucks. I just don’t wear it lol i’m the most laid back girl EVER when it comes to jewelry.
I don’t know.. it just bums me out that that’s how he sees this whole process. That he surely would’ve failed… that breaks my heart that he would ever even think that I would allow that for a second. I wish I could somehow subtly let him know that 1. that isn’t the case and 2. STOP MAKING ME OUT LIKE SOME CRAZY BRIDEZILLA!!!!!!
I guess my ego is just bruised I shouldn’t care but I do. I care how he represents me to the rest of his friends. Like I sound like someone no one would want to marry. This friends GF didn’t even bring it up as far as I know my SO’s friend just wanted to marry her after 1 year. (MY SO and I have been together 3). So now I look like a naggy hag and she is the graceful perfect princess who didn’t have to say anything.
Wah. 🙁 pitty party for me. PMS sucks, any other time I’d just blow this off.
Thanks for listening to my rant bees, thank you!