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    soonerpsych    June 26, 2010   Oklahoman at heart, now in Southwest FL

    We're only serving one type of entree at our reception, but I'm concerned there will be a few vegetarians/special dietary needs people in our group.  If there's no meal selection option on the reply card, how should I handle this?  Should I include a line on the reply card to contact us for special dietary needs?  Just include it on the website?  Or will special needs/vegetarian guests just know?  I don't want everyone thinking they can call to personalize their meal.

     
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    JamaicaBride    May 14, 2011   Charlotte, NC

    I think you should include a line on the reply card. Especially if you don't anticipate a lot of people who need an alternate selection.

     
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    AzinAugust    August 2010   Sedona, AZ

    Most persons who have food allergies or are vegan/vegetarians know to say something but I think just for worry's sake alone I would include the line on the RSVP card. :o) That way it's not something you're wondering about.

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    Do you plan on accommodating vegetarian requests? If so, I'm confused as to why you don't simply give two options on the reply card.

    I do think it should be addressed somewhere, though. Otherwise, guests might assume that they'll be able to order their special needs food at the reception.

     
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    soonerpsych    June 26, 2010   Oklahoman at heart, now in Southwest FL

    @redherring - You make a good point.  Maybe everyone would want the option of vegetarian or meat meals.  The vegetarian option is actually cheaper for us, so if more people want it, we could save money too!

     
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    mountain.bride    December 12, 2009   Australia

    I think offering a meat and vegie option is a good idea. A lot of meat-eaters still like vegie options especially if the meat is something they don't particularly like (or if the vegie option is really delicious). And if it saves you money - what a great idea! I'm a vegetarian but if the invite/website didn't mention dietary needs I wouldn't necessarily think you needed to know, e.g. I'd think it was a buffet or I'd be able to choose on the night, so this probably saves you some hassles.

     
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    ClairDarling    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    if someone has a special dietary need, they know to mention so on their rsvp (im a vegitarian, im used to it).  i wouldnt open this up to other guests, you'll end up with 15 veggies rather than 2.  if you arent allowed to offer another alternitive, then dont.  by law, your caterer is required to accomodate those who dont eat meat, but not everyone who thinks eggplant sounds good.

     
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    SoonToBeMrsV    July 3, 2010  

    I'd check with your caterer too.  Ours asked us to give a rough estimate and then said they'd just be prepared for some extras. 

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    We are only doing one option also and so on the card we are giving two options: Duo of beef and chicken or Vegetarian.

    Also we have included a statement on our website to contact us about dietary restrictions.

     
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    Goldilocks1107    September 2010   Madison, WI

    I think we're going to do a line on the RSVP card that just says to contact us with any special dietary needs. But, dinner is only for 30 people, and there's only 1 person I know of who needs a special menu. Our caterer charges an extra $1 per plate for offering 2 entrees instead of one, but will provide special meals for those with food allergies/vegetarians (not sure why I just can't offer a veggie meal and not get charged extra, but whatever).

     
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    futuremrscrawford    October 2, 2010   NYC

    if it's gonna save you money - offer it!  I'm a vegetarian (who would obviously pick that option), but I also have a lot of friends who aren't necessarily vegetarians, but would prefer a veggie centric meal to a "meat" option ------- you might get more cheap meals than you think!!

    also check with your caterer.  As a vegetarian, I've often been at meat-filled weddings and have just whispered to the server "can I have a plate of veggies and rolls"?  and they are more than happy to accommodate.  If it saves you money - be more proactive!  But a lot of vegetarians are used to fending for ourselves:-).

     

     

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    Never assume anything. If you want people to know that there will be accommodations made for dietary restrictions and vegetarians, then you need to be specific on the reply card. Put a note that says "please inform us of any dietary restrictions you may have or if you need a vegetarian meal".

     
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    jaylii9    September 5, 2010  

    We are only offering one entree option, but we have also put down the vegetarian choice. 

    I figure that if anyone has more specific food needs they will be in touch with us about it. I do think that you should list a vegetarian option on your RSVP cards.

    I also agree with futuremrscraford. Some people who are not vegetarians can choose that entree. I think it's good to just offer people with as many options as possible.

     
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    shaydenise    October 30, 2010  

    Personally I would give more than one option.  If you put a line in about "special dietary needs" some annoying people are going to interpret this as, "Please write down foods you don't like," lol.  Sad but true.  I think doing a vegetarian option and meat option if your best bet.

     
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    MehBee    May 15, 2010  

    We had one entree option and when it came down to serve if someone said they are vegetarian, an alternative meal - a vegetarian meal would appear.  We did not have a note on our RSVP card or anything of that matter.  People knew we would accommodate their dietary restrictions. 

     
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    rachaelrobin    January 16, 2011   Philadelphia

    i think if you offer a vegetarian option and one meat option that will accommodate many people and hopefully will cut some costs for you!

    Edit: aaaand now i see you wrote this 5 months ago and prob already have this figured out! never mind...

     

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