Post # 1
I love Christmas and I love my husband. I love buying people gifts, decorating, cooking, seeing everyone, the whole thing. My husband and I got married this year, and he has gotten me some nice gifts over the years. This year I asked for earrings, hoping he would get me some diamond earrings, nothing huge, just something special to commemorate our first married Christmas. Well, yesterday he does all of his shopping for me, goes upstairs and wraps the gifts. He comes back saying that he is nervous about one of the gifts and maybe I should open it now, because I may be able to use it tomorrow when we go see the Nutcracker. I am usually not about early gifts. I said, it is up to you, you can give it to me as an early gift if you want. He was on the fence, so I asked, “is it small?” because in my mind, I didn’t want to open one of my “big” presents before Christmas. He says “yes” and I open it. Bam, it is the earrings, and me and my big mouth, said why did you give these to me now! I asked if it was small?? He was like, uhh they are small, I thought you meant size wise. Then I say, promptly put my foot in my mouth … noo this ruins Christmas morning! So yes, I just told my husband he ruined Christmas for giving me some beautiful earrings. He was afraid the stones were too small, and while I would have liked something a little larger, I am ultimately happy with whatever he chooses to give me, it isn’t about the size. Although I would never open them and say, yes too small, take them back, anyway. So now I feel like an ultimate spoiled brat idiot. He said he was going to return them for something else, but I think I convinced him not to… sigh.
We have determined, in the future, nobody gets any presents before Christmas. Problem solved.
Post # 3
@CarolineM: Lesson learned for the future!
Post # 4
Aww I’m sorry it worked out that way! Hopefully your husband understand that you didn’t mean it the way it came out. Sometimes we say things that come out wrong. You are human, what are you gonna do? The earrings sound lovely, and the fact that he actually did get you what you wanted for Christmas–what a good man you have there.
Post # 5
awww im sorry. this sounds like something i would do.
Post # 6
@CarolineM: My husband did almost the same thing! He gave me my “big” present. I asked the same thing, is it small? IT WAS MY NEW PHONE!
Post # 7
I don’t think my FI has ever made it to the actual day the gift is for. He always freaks out because he’s excited/worried and makes me open things early. I’m with you that it dims the actual day, but I love seeing how excited/proud he is. Plus, now your 1st Christmas is special, you’ll both laugh about this story in the future!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
This year we gave our gifts early while his mom was visiting. While part of me is like, hmmm now nothing to open on christmas… the other part realizes that it’s not about the one day or the wrapping paper. My fiance has never made it past Christmas eve, and I love that he’s so excited to give me what he has chosen for me.
Post # 9
You opened diamond earrings and Christmas is ruined? That’s digging around for something to be wrong, IMO, haha
Post # 10
@CarolineM: I have been thinking about this all day and suggest you check out Carolyn Hax’s column from today: http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-give-the-gift-of-acceptance/2012/12/21/8df93dc4-3ef9-11e2-a2d9-822f58ac9fd5_story.html?wp_login_redirect=0
Her point is you have to meet people where they are. Your husband is probably trying so hard to please you, he is thinking you will want to show off pretty earrings. Why not show them off before hand. Or, if you don’t like then, he can get you a gift you love before Christmas.
And my personal story– FI is practical and thoughtful and has a billion good traits, but giving gifts is not one of them. He buys things he thinks I need for Christmas (socks because my feet get cold, sented candles because my roommate doesn’t take out the trash). It is cute, but I prefer a non-practical splurge at Christmas. I have learned that to make his Christmas special, I need to buy him something he will use. And for me not to be disappointed, I need to send a list of items to him. Otherwise I will get socks for Christmas again. Is it how I imagined it as a child, no. But meeting him half way beats getting socks 🙂