Post # 1
How do you think IL situations should be handled when an IL does not like the married in spouse, for no actual good reason? Do you think it’s the married in spouse and the IL’s problem to fix, and theirs alone? At what point should their SO get involved, if at all?
DH and I were talking about this yesterday and I am just curious what the hive thinks.
Post # 3
I feel that if it’s the IL family…the SO needs to get involved! theyw ill know how to speak to their own family better and more effectively than you will. So many ppl aren’t confrontational..but a simple “hey, do you guys have an issue with my SO?” can make them snap out of it. They may not even realize they are being hurtful! ppl are CLUELESS
Post # 4
I think it really depends on what’s going on. If the IL simply doesn’t care for the new spouse but behaves civilly, I’d just try to win them over with time and patience.
If the in-law is being actively rude/disrespectful towards the new spouse, or is talking trash about them, then I think the SO needs to get involved to let them know they won’t tolerate it – that they don’t have to like/love you, but they do have to respect you as the SO’s choice.