- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
So, what would you do?
So, what would you do?
If I were only dating, I would get it regardless. Married, I would consider his opinions more, but would still get it because he doesn’t “own” my body or anything.
Although, it might be different depending on the reasons he would be against it.
FTR, we are only dating and he is not strongly opposed, just meh, but it got me curious about what others would do
I’d be a lot less likely to get it, but still might depending on what it is & why he’s against it.
DH wants a big tattoo on his forearm or a full sleeve, which I’m not super excited about. I’ve been politely discouraging it, haha.
Dating: I would still get it.
Married: I would not get it. It has nothing to do with owning my body or owning me, but with respect. If my husband feels that strongly to ask me to not do it, I wouldn’t.
My husband once brought up using an e-cigarette (He doesn’t smoke) and I was very adament that he did not do it. So, he doesn’t.
Mutual respect gets you everywhere.
If we were married, I absoloutely not get it.
Otherwise, I would strongly consider his opinion.
Either way, I would never get a tattoo.
I would personally have a hard time dating someone that got a tattoo (or marrying them for that matter), unless I truly understand why they were getting it and what and where. To me, personally, while I think tattoo can be an amazing art form, I don’t love anything that much that I could make it permanent. To me, it’s a waste of money and a permanent “scar’ on your body. My FI and I have the same feelings about it, and when I asked how he would feel if I wanted a tattoo, he said he would be really upset and disappointed. Don’t get me wrong, I’m friends with people with tons of tattoos! I just think I couldn’t do it and I wouldn’t want to be with someone that really wanted one– had that difference in opinion about I guess the value of keeping the body unadorned (i’m not big into piercings either).
@Laurenplusalex: this is my current situation. I want a tattoo, but no one around me (especially FH) wants me to. All i hear is negative connotations, and ‘ruining my body’….or whatever. And it’s just sad. FH is the one that has to look at it, so if it would weird him out, I won’t do it.
I would try to negotiate a compromise. For example, get it smaller or in a place that can easily be covered up.
I am not married but even if I was.. its my body and I will get one if I want to.. same goes for my SO.. he has a tattoo that I’m not too fond of but hey.. it’s not my body!
My body, my choice.
He can love it or hate it but it’s not his body to decide what does or doesn’t go on it. I would listen to why he didn’t want me to get it, but unless he could prove it was racist/crude/incorrect I would still be getting it.
@Laurenplusalex: I had one tattoo when I started dating DH. About half way through our relationship I decided I wanted to get a sparrow tattoo with a breast cancer ribbon in honor of my Aunt who passed away. He was really against it (he HATES tattoos on women), but he gave in and said it was ultimately my body and my choice.
Now that we’re married I’m planning on getting part of our vows tattooed in a bracelet style around my left wrist. I haven’t really told him yet because I want to finalize the design first, but I have a feeling that it’ll be the same reaction. I respect his opinion, but he also respects me in that it’s something that I want and is important to me.
He knows that I’d never get permanently inked with a piece that doesn’t mean a lot to me. And as much as I value his opinion, it’s still my body and it’s a way to express things that are important to me. I’m not going out and getting a carebear tattoo, it’s all things that have a meaningful story. I also intend on getting at least three more as well as the vows around my wrist.
No matter what, I’d get it if I want it. Whether it’s dating or not, I’d obviously listen to his opinions about it, but it’s my body, and I do what I want. I have 6 tattoos, though, so it was something he obviously knew about before we started dating. Luckily he loves my tattoos. 🙂
I’d get the tattoo. Then I’d get a GIANT fake one to put right on my neck and pretend that was the tattoo I got, then be like “Just kidding, stop being a weener.” and show him the real one.
I happen to already have a big tattoo on my neck so that wouldn’t work for me, but if I were the girl with no tattoos.