(Closed) You want to bring Who??

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Considering you are only having 10 people at your wedding I think you are totally in the right. It’s ridiculous to have such an intimate affair and then a random stranger present. I think your fiance needs to talk to his famiy and make it very clear what will be happening. I think if they want to bring the nanny she can stay at a hotel and then if they get tired of dealing with their kids throughout the day the nanny can stay with them at the hotel or be with them around town or whatever. 

Post # 4
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with you. With your guest list so small and intimate, it seems like IF you decided to have one more person, it should be a family member or a close friend. A family’s nanny is just ridiculous in my option…

Post # 5
1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

@star_dust:  +1


Post # 6
9216 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I agree with the others.  Your Fiance should probably tell her, rather than you.  I think he can just say “We are having a very intimate, family-only wedding – we are really looking forward to celebrating with you and Husband and Kids.”  If they can’t do that, they could always leave the kids behind with the nanny.  (If they don’t get the picture, I think you can explicitly say NO STRANGERS ALLOWED!)

Post # 7
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Let your Fiance talk this over with them. The nanny, whether she’s been working for them for one year or one week, SHOULDN’T be there. Why would they need a nanny for the kids, anyway, if they’ll both be there? HOW WEIRD! If they don’t feel like watching their own kids, the nanny should stay with them… at the hotel.

Again, let Fiance handle this… perhaps a bit more tactfully than I just stated it haha.

Post # 10
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Cantstartafire1:  You could make it out of reclaimed pallets like they do on Pinterest!!

For the record, I think you’re totally in the right here. That whole situation is a little weird…but I don’t think you’re being insensitive at all.

Post # 11
1139 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That is ridiculous.  You are 100% correct!  I’d get Fiance to handle it though. Does he agree or at least see your point?

Post # 12
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your FI’s sister is ridiculous. WHY do they even need to bring the nanny, if they’re there? Are they really that lazy or disinterested in their children?

There’s no way I would have a random stranger (who will probably soon be replaced by nanny #5) in all my wedding photos. And how would your family/friends feel if they heard about that too? I hope your Fiance puts his foot down when he talks to her.

Post # 14
7234 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think you are 100% right. It would be totally awkward to have the nanny at your wedding. However, I do have to say, I’m worried about how she will handle the kids when she’s used to having full time help! I hope the kids are more well behaved than her parenting choices suggest.

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