You want to take a picture….now????

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

No but I’m pretty sure your family is! LOL

Post # 4
2620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

not insane… my husbands family was doing that too i thought it was so wierd. but when we been going though his moms stuff we come across lost of pictures from previous funerals– happpy smiling faces and such….

Post # 5
6449 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would have thought I was smoking crack too because I would have a hard time believing that was actually happening. I’m sorry they made a tough day even more difficult.

Post # 6
237 posts
Helper bee

@Nona99:  When you were talkin’ pictures, it wasn’t crazy. I was thinking about taking pictures at the out-of-province cemetery where we buried my Gramma a few years ago.

…Then it got weird. 

It reminded me about this long-lost cousin who showed up in a tube top and shorts. To my Grandmother’s burial. I was furious. 

Post # 8
4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I once went to a funeral at a Jewish cemetary — which meant instead of standing-up gravestones, the grave markers were all flat on the ground and thus somewhat harder to see (but certainly not invisible). A solid 50% of the attendees of the funeral decided to shortcut to the chapel thing by walking across dozens of graves. And these were high-society fancy-pants type people.

So, you’re not insane. Many people just apparently haven’t the foggiest notion of what is and is not considered respectful behavior around the dead. I definitely want my ashes scattered when I die so I don’t have to endure an eternity of idiots stomping across my grave on their way to buy a friggin’ hot dog or something. Ugh.

Post # 9
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Nona99:  My ex’s sister took our engagement photos right after a family member’s funeral ceremony. Literally half an hour after they dumped her ashes. 

I don’t think I’ve ever felt so uncomfortable in my life. I never posted the pictures. Everytime I looked at them, I thought of death.  

Post # 10
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Nona99:  You are normal and your family is a little off, like mine. One of my least favorite memories is of my grandparents forcing us to take group photos around my great grandfathers casket pre-burial. Gives me the chills. They made me touch him too.

Post # 11
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I would have lost my mind…or assumed they had lost theirs 😛

Sorry your family was behaving so inconsideratly. I was going to say they were being callous, but maybe that is too harsh. Perhaps they mean well and are just ignornant about what is and is not appropriate.

I’m sorry for your loss 🙁

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