You WILL get drunk with us and if you don't like it we don't care

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
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Buzzing bee

Wow. That is awful. I am so sorry! I’ve done the same thing (stayed jn to sleep instead of goof out with the group) because I also love sightseeing and getting up early to do that! I can’t believe how forceful they were! Sounds like childish bullying behavior. I have no advice, except maybe to address it with them and say that it was unacceptable, but I’m so sorry thT happened!

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Helper bee

I am exactly like you as far as drinking and recreational activities. I’ll have a few drinks but I actually want to enjoy my life instead of spending it miserably hungover.

It seems to me that you fell into peer pressure so you need to work on how to deal with that. Since you were doing a mock trial, it sounds like maybe you’re studying law. I think a better lesson than a mock trial would have been having your classmates arrested for assault.  

Idon’t think you were dragged anywhere against your will.I’m pretty sure somebody would have noticed that you were being kidnapped and called security. Maybe that sounds a little harsh but it is what it is.

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Busy bee

That’s horrible!  It wasn’t right for them to try and force you to go out against your wishes, and I’m sure the alcohol they had already consumed didn’t help the situation. I’ve had friends who done something similar, and I ended up breaking away from them.  It was just too awkward when we hung out together, and I couldn’t spend time around people who wouldn’t respect my wishes.  These friends drink constantly, and I’m fine with one or two drinks.  My advice would be to see if they offer an apology, and if not, I would look into separating yourself from these people.

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Sugar bee

@Dizbee:  if you are 30 min outside of dc there is a way to get there that’s probably less hassle than the car. Ask at the front desk. I would want to go by myself after the crap these clowns put you through. But really, you have to be stronger. I would never allow anyone to physically force me and would have been screaming. Unless you were thrown over their shoulders with your mouth duct tapes you agreed to go. You need to stand up for yourself. If this is a thing you do for fun I would find a new group. If this is a class or something I would report this behavior. Really this has nothing to do with drinking and everything to do with being assholes. 

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Busy bee

I disagree with previous posters. Nobody should be physically dragged from her bed by anyone. Yes, OP could have thrown a fit and called the cops, but most people are hesitant to do that to people who they normally see as friends. 

I’m sorry your friends were so crappy to you. There’s not much you can do now, but I would avoid travelling with them in the future.

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Sugar Beekeeper

How OLD are these people? Sounds super immature.  I’d be pissed too however, I would have gotten in their faces and told me to leave me alone, then I would have just gone down got a new hotel key (told them to disable the other ones that were “stolen” from you) and gone to bed.  

That’s ridiculous behavior.  You’ve got to stick to your guns though and not let anyone force you to do things you don’t want to do – even if it means they hate you!  True friends wouldn’t do that to you. 

Where are you staying? EveniIf you’re 30 minutes outside DC, there should be a metro stop nearby – that’s way easier than driving in anyways. Ask the front desk at the hotel!

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Sugar bee

@Dizbee:  I absolutely would have yelled. I am not someone who is afraid of confrontation and there is no way I would allow myself to be dragged out of my room. This is not normal behavior. And yes, I would have been kicking and screaming if someone was putting their hands on me forcing me to do something. And no, I don’t think that’s overreacting. maybe I’m the crazy one here but this is absurd and I would not consider these people my friends. 

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Sugar bee

@Dizbee:  As someone who is the partier and usually trying to get people to come out with them, that was amazingly rude.  They had no right to treat you that way.  I do think you probably could have called it a night a little earlier, but I can understand how you didn’t want to affect that relationship (however right or wrong that may be).

I think you can tour DC by yourself!  The siteseeing parts of town are safe enough to do on your own, if you’re excited about it.

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Helper bee

@Dizbee: Wow, that his horrible!! I would never hang out with these people again! They are bullies, and their insistence upon getting you drunk against your will is beyond creepy. Ick.

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Bumble bee

I would have went to the front desk, told them I locked myself out of the room, and got another key.  Then I would have went to the room and locked myself in to get some sleep.  The next day I would have talked to the front desk about getting a ride to the nearest Metro stop so I could go into the city.

When we got back home I would have cursed everyone out and told them what assholes they were during the trip.  :)

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Busy bee

@Dizbee:  yikes, that sucks. Sorry to hear that. Next time, go straight to the hotel front desk and tell them someone has your key. I think as long as you have your ID and know who’s name the room is under, I think you should get in without a problem :(

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