(Closed) You’d think I’d be her favorite person right now…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That really stinks! Maybe try and talk to your mom privately and let her know how much you want her there when you go dress shopping.  If she is still strange about it just ask her what’s up.  Perhaps it is just such a sore subject that she can’t let herself be excited.

Post # 4
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

maybe she doesn’t want to get excited because she was so let down when your sister didn’t take her along, and she doesn’t want to build up expectations a second time? perhaps get her alone and tell her how excited you are to go dress shopping with her, and how much it means to you to have her there with you when you pick out your dress. i bet that would make her day.

Post # 5
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would just ask if point blank if she wants to come along. Say if you don’t get a straight answer from her, you’re going without her because she keeps dodging the question for some reason.

I have to say, though. This is very childish behavior from your mom. I didn’t take my mom dress shopping (although, I didn’t take my Mother-In-Law, either), and she was fine with it. I totally understand that it’s a huge emotional step … picking out the dress … but jeez, being sad for weeks is a little much.

Hopefully she goes with you and you make up for it.

Post # 6
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Maybe you could try surprising her. just have a mother daughter day and include dress shopping in the day’s activities…

Post # 7
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My mom made a huge deal out of coming dress shopping with me (we live 3 hours apart), so we scheduled a trip at my son’s bday for her to come stay and made a bridal shop appt. Well, when she got here all she wanted to do was drink in her hotel and she wouldn’t come to the dress appt! I ended up having to buy cheap store bought cupcakes at the last minute for my sons party and wasn’t able to do anything great for my son’s 2nd bday because of the appt that she didn’t bother to come to. Soo..sometimes mothers do funny things. I’m sure that yours does want to come and I would just talk to her. Best of luck!

Post # 8
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh no!! I am so sorry. How was your relationship/her reaction to weddings in general before your sister did that? Maybe she doesn’t want you to feel guilty if you choose not to go shopping with her, so she’s just putting up a wall? Maybe she doesn’t want you to know how badly she wants to be there, in case you had other plans? Just talk to her about it very openly. It’s probably residual pain from your sisters actions.

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