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I didn't have a feeling of 'THE dress'. I did have second thoughts but went with the dress anyway. It was beautiful on the wedding day. I still have what ifs about dresses that I was afraid to try on though.
I don't think I had that feeling. I just got the one I liked the most that I could afford!
I didn't have a "This is it" moment either...but I'm not a highly emotional person about that sort of thing, so I didn't expect it. In the end, I just picked the dress I liked the best :)
I only tried on 5 gowns, but I knew what I wanted and when I tried "the one" on, I just knew. I didn't cry, but I did keep sneaking peeks at myself in the mirror. I purchased it last November and I am still very happy with it. Not everyone cries or jumps up and down or screams, etc., but you will know the one that is right for you when you find it. I was very poker faced when I decided on my gown. Now I just smile when I look at it.
Oh, I can definitely relate! I didn't get "that feeling" in any of the dresses I tried on, including the one I bought. I love the dress. I'm really happy with what I chose. It just didn't spark an "OMG I'm a bride" kind of moment. I chose it because it looked awesome, it had practically everything I wanted, and it made people cry. :P
To be honest, I thought the dress shopping experience was pretty ridiculous. People play it up a lot, but it was just shopping for me.
Not really for me. The dress I chose is the dress I originally fell in love with in pictures, online only because no local stores have it, but then thought it wouldn't make me feel bridal because I'd always imagined some scarlett o'hara huge thing. So I tried instead to go with a big ballgown poufy dress and tried on several and felt silly in them. Then I tried on one very very similar at David's Bridal (but more plain) to the original one I fell in love with online and realized it made my body look AWESOME and it made my FI cry when I walked out of the dressing room. So, I thought about the first dress (the online one) and how it had all that the DB's dress had and more, and all the things I kept being drawn to (vintage style, a sheer lace overlay in the back, tiny buttons up the back, lace all over, and same silhouette)... so it just makes the most sense. That and it's actually cheaper than the DB dress!
Don't get me wrong, I adore it, but my decision was based more on a feeling of "it is beautiful, makes you look amazing, and won't get any better than this dress for your budget" vs "OMG this is THE ONE FOR ME". I could prolong this whole dress thing but I don't have time for that really, and I have no fears of being a 2 or 3 dress bride because I simply DO NOT have the money to buy another. Once I order this one, that's it, I am done. A very tight budget helps avoid dress regret, I think!
There are many brides on here who never found THE ONE. There are also brides on here who've found THE ONE after buying 3 or 4 gowns. I am hoping I will be the latter. I am on 2 right now and I really hope it stops there. On the otherhand, if I never find THE ONE I think I will be okay with it. As long as my FI is happy (and I know he will be happy even if I show up in a burlap sack) I will be too.
I know this doesn't happen for everyone but it happened for me! I must have tried on at least 100 dresses! I had been looking since Aug 2009 and I found my pretty this May. I had almost resigned myself to not having "THAT FEELING" but then I tried on my dress and I got it. I didn't cry, but I did felt amazing and was beaming! It really felt like the clouds parted and a light from the sky was shining on me...cheesy, but true. I'm so happy that I waited until I found "the dress".
I liked almost every dress I tried on. I finally chose one and then 3 months before the wedding I found the dress I knew I had to have. So glad I went with my gut. I should have kept shopping but didn't want to keep bringing my mom out shopping, she was getting tired after two visits! I ended up selling the first one and its true I didn't have to ask anyone their opinion about the second dress, it was the one.
Oh and you know what is funny to me? When you are house shopping people will tell you the same thing. That when you find "the one" you will know. And you know what? It didn't happen like that for me with wedding dress shopping but it totally DID happen that way for us when we were house shopping 3 years ago! And my RE agent was SOOOO glad because we'd looked at a crazy amount of houses and were thinking we would never find one we loved on our tiny house buying budget. It was just amusing to me how it happened just that way. We found this house and we both just knew it would be our house...
But dresses, not so much. Maybe because I'm a major clothes horse and have a ridiculously large wardrobe as it is, one that is made up mostly of dresses? Not wedding dresses or formals but still. I dunno.
Nope, that's just a romanticized notion of dress buying. I know lots of girls here write that they got that feeling and they cried and everything; but I am skeptical of this and doubt that there is only one dress that can make a girl feel that way. If they had tried on more dresses, had a different budget etc, I'm sure they would've found more dresses that look good enought to bring them to tears.
Why is that you can't decide on a dress? If you're just waiting for the "moment" I'd say that alone shouldn't hold you back from buying something if you like it enough. Is it because you're deadset on certain elements and you can't find them combined ine one dress? If this is the case you can either go the custom dress route, or keep looking till time runs out and then decide on the one that's best available. And then stick with that decision and don't doubt yourself. If you're just afraid to commit because you think there are other good options out there, know that this will always be the case, and doesn't mean you're making a wrong decision.
I tried on about 50 dresses and when I found mine I couldnt stop looking at myself in the mirror and I felt like the prettiest bride ever. I didnt cry...but my ear to ear smile said it all. after I tried on my dress I didnt want to try anything else on. I cancelled the other appointment I had at a bridal boutique that day. If you are stuck trying to decide between 4 dresses I dont think you have found "the one" just keep looking until you are at least down to 2 you love.
I did! I tried on a TON of dresses, and thought I would never have that feeling, but I did! I am NOT a crier, but I definitely teared up. I would keep looking if I were you, that's what I did.
I had a very similar experience to Ms. Teddy, except I only tried on about 30 dresses. :) When I put on my gown, I felt beautiful and never stopped smiling.
i had it, and my sister had it as well, she tried on more than 100 dresses.. but not everyone has an 'ah-ha' moment
I never had "the" feeling. Now, I did choose a dress and now have regret... but that's because 'the one" was too scary for me to buy until it fell in my lap... lol
Even with "the one" it wasn't a "OMG" feeling. It was a dress I've been in lve with on paper since 2007... and it just "is" THE dress for me. lol
I've been thinking about the same thing! I've tried on at least 40 dresses and I like a lot of them but don't feel like I've found "the one" either. I decided to stop looking for at least a month because I think trying on sooooo many I liked but didn't love is confusing me.
I didn't have "the one" feeling until I looked back at the photos and saw what looked best on my figure. And then my mom, FMIL, BMs all saw the pictures separately and all picked that one as their fave too. And it fit my budget. So, then it was the one!
I actually ended up having that feeling. I was certain I wouldn't. It took me 7 months, over 150 dresses and buying one that I hated before I found it though. I didnt cry or anything, I just got really excited and had a feeling of "This is right". I just felt comfortable and I felt like me.
I too did not cry. My dress was another gown that I LOVED in pictures, but I hoped wouldn't fall flat when I tried it on. It looked so blah in the bag at the bridal shop... but then I put it on. I was just happy. I felt exquisite. I knew I would walk down the aisle in that dress, and I just felt so darn HAPPY! Every other dress had me judging it like crazy and this one I couldn't find a single thing wrong. No table cloth lace, no snowflake looking beading, just perfection :-].
yes i relate. i never had that feeling. nothing was "the one" for me. I just got tired of dress shopping and finally settled. my dress was gorgeous, but it also caused me a lot of pain, sorrow, and stress when it didn't fit.
Depends on what your decision-making process is; I didn't get emotional in the sense of I cried and all that, but I also knew it was my dress because I loved it and didn't want to take it off. I stopped looking at other dresses and just didn't really have any doubts. I'm also the type of person who is methodical with ordering at restaurants; like I glance through the menu, zero in on two or three dishes, think about them more in depth, then order the final entree and don't look back. This is compared to some girlfriends of mine who just cannot decide what to order ever and get easily overwhelmed, and then immediately after ordering regret what they got and wish they had gotten something else (gotta love 'em, I always tease them about it!) Interestingly, one of these girls recently got married and had the HARDEST time picking out her wedding dress! I think the key is to not think about it as "the one", but just "a dress that you love and feel amazing in", and then STOP looking at others and doubting yourself. GL!
I was like Mrs Teddy - it wasn't tears or anything (there were other dresses that made me more teary) I just knew it was right. It was just right, and I loved it. I was hugely excited, but in a quiet way. I didn't sleep the whole night after I found it.
I'd tried on about 50 dresses, and I had a shortlist of 2, and my dress was neither of them.
The thing it, if you've got time, and you're not sure, just chill out for a while. Stop looking. Give it a couple of months, and try it again.
I found it much less stressful after taking a break for a couple of months.
Do not listen to people who say you'll have THAT FEELING. Not everyone does. I was completely torn between two (totally different) dresses. In the end I went with the ballgown as opposed to the mermaid because I knew I'd never get to wear a ballgown again and it looked beautiful! Go with what you like, you may not get that feeling. And I defnitely didn't cry about the dress - I teared up when I saw my mom and other family cry, and the overall emotion of wedding dress shopping but it wasn't because I found the dress.
I didn't cry, but tried on one (I only tried on about 12 dresses because I only went to a blowout sale and I had to have a dress from this store) that I liked, but wasn't in love with it. I had everything McGroom told me he liked (train, rouching) and I looked good in it. The dresses I was in love with, when I got there, looked horrible on me (think "Baby Got Back" but no top or pear-shaped), so I got the dress he'd like. When I went to get alterations, I put on my dress and I love it more. It's like McGroom knows me so well, he knew what I'd love. No, he hasn't seen my dress and has no idea that I got what he wanted, but I can't wait to show him. Also, of all the dress picutres he said he liked, he never saw the actual picture of the dress I ended up buying either. Maybe yu could ask your FI without giving anything away.
@cbee: I did the same thing. I really wanted a dress with cap sleeves, or at least more than spaghetti straps and no train. There was exactly one dress in the store that satisfied those requirements. It fit me reasonably well (except for way too long) looked pretty good and I felt like me in it. ...and it was on sale for $99. I looked around, thought about it for a little, decided I didn't really dig the whole dress shopping thing and didn't want to go to a bunch of stores (and take time off to do it) to find out they didn't have anything (or hardly anything) that I liked and decided it was a great deal and I liked it and that was good enough. I recently got it back after alterations and it is fantastic. It looks great and I love it. Moral of the story: sometimes good enough is good enough, especially when it comes with a price tag you love. I never cried about my dress, but I'm really looking forward to it.
PS The only way I could see crying about a dress would be if the price tag made me sick to my stomach, and that's not a good kind of crying. Or maybe if I fell in love with something I couldn't, or wouldn't, afford.
I was never one to dream about weddings and gowns and such, so I had no expectations of falling in love with a dress. Frankly, I was always more concerned about finding "the one" to marry ... not so much about finding "the dress" to wear when I did. Also, I had a short engagement, so didn't have time to dither over dresses. I tried on less than a dozen and ended up ordering (I think) the third one I had tried on. It looked good. I felt good in it. It fit the budget. Done.
I didn't. I love my dress and never had any serious regrets, which tells me it was the dress for me even though I never had that "oh mommy" moment where I cried and the heavens opened up and the angels sang.
I didn't get that feeling when I put mine on. I haven't bought it yet, but I'm pretty sure it's the one. I've tried on about 20 dresses so far. It was one of the first ones I tried on. I compare every other dress to it, so I think that's a good sign.
I got 'the one' feeling for sure. I had tried on so many dresses and nothing was 'doing it' for me, so when I finally put my dress on I almost passed out from happiness. It was perfect in every way, better than I could have imagined.
Nope, not for me. I like my dress a LOT but I never got any "oh my God" feelings about it. And I get dress regret frequently.
Don't worry, I didn't feel that way either. In fact, my sister is my MOH and she was the one who told me this was "the one." In the end, you have to ignore the stuff you see on wedding TV shows about crying and "knowing" and just find one that you love and can afford. Don't be afraid to be decisive or bring others along with you that you trust who can help you to be decisive. In my opinion, the more you try on the more you overwhelming and unproductive it becomes.
Good Luck on your search and know that everyone has a different experience when they pick out their dress. There is no right or wrong feeling. :)
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Hi Bees. Everyone keeps saying that when you try on THE dress, you will just know it's the one, you'll cry, etc. Well, I have not yet experienced this, and I have probably tried on 40 dresses, and already purchased one that I am not going to keep. Does this mean I haven't found the one? Or does it maybe just mean I am not one of those people who is going to have that feeling? (BTW- I'm sure you will see that my wedding is not for a while, and I don't need to be trying on dresses yet. My wedding was originally planned for April which is why I had tried on so many dresses.)
Can anyone relate?