Post # 1
It seems like every Bible study topic in the young adults ministry is centered on dating relationships. Just about every topic is covered. Our whole church is doing a relationship series this month. They are having a young marrieds conference on Valentines weekend. They are also having an engaged couples conference on Valentines Day. It all seems kind of over the top in some ways.
Is your church similar? Is there really a need for such an investment?
Post # 3
@Kacey23: Our church was very strict with dating! D:
We weren’t allowed to date (they wouldn’t let us serve or be an active part of the church) if we were not going to get engaged very soon.
They usually talked about dating, but most of the time they didn’t. I guess it is the other extreme. And I think they are both wrong.
I believe we should preach the Word and that will renew our minds to live our relationships they way God wants us to.
Post # 4
Our church doesn’t have a young adults ministry 🙁 They have youth, and then things for older people, but there aren’t very many people in the in-between stage, and very fe datng/engaed/married young couples without children. Other churches I have been to definitely overdo the dating relationships though. I think the church tends to obsess far too much about it.
Post # 5
It’s an interesting issue! I think you can harp on it a bit much. My church is strict about the issue as well. They will talk with staff members and volunteers alike who have been in a dating relationship for a long time without getting engaged. Same goes with long engagements.
Post # 6
@Kacey23: Our church used to be very strict on relationships, but by God’s grace we’ve come a long way (even since I was in high school). A big distinction made was the difference between a command and a preference. Instead of, like others wrote, harsh rules along the lines of “no eye contact with the opposite sex after 10pm” and “no touching until engaged”… it is now more “here’s what the Bible says is wrong, here’s what we’ve see being harmful, here’s what we see as beneficial… but the rest is between you and your significant other and God.”
Good luck getting through this season!