Young and wanting to start TTC

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KsoontobeN:  We found out my younger sister was pregnant. Haha. It sounds terrible, but it was the kick in the ass we needed. 

Post # 4
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1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KsoontobeN:  I want to so badly! My husband has two part time jobs, I’ve got a job too. He wants to start trying in March, but I want to start trying today. I’m ovulating right now, so maybe I should initiate things tonight when he gets home? 😉

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m 27 which you probably don’t consider young but I do lol. I think there’s a big difference between having baby fever and being ready to actually have a baby – just something to think about. I also don’t think you ever feel 100% ready for such a huge life change regardless of your age. It’s exciting but also scary and overwhelming. Your life as you know it will never be the same. Not that it’s a bad thing but its just different. We decided we were ready because DH is in his mid 30s and we also are well established in our careers (which makes taking leave a lot easier to do), own a home and have significant income and savings to sustain the costs of raising a child the way we want to without struggling. 

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ll be 26 in March, which I consider to still be pretty young. We’ve been actively TTC since October, NTNP since August.

My before-children bucket list included, at a minimum: finishing my bachelors and starting to advance in my career, owning a family-sized home, being happily married, having our financial house in order, doing some international travel both for work and play, and emotionally just feeling ready to bring a life into this world. We’re just there.

I can’t imagine being there at 22. Everything that I listed above, I did at 22 or older. But I’m not you! Also, I don’t think anyone is ever 100% ready. If they think they are, then they’re definitely not 100% ready!

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I am 2 years older than you and we plan to wait at least 5 years before TTC. we aren’t married yet, but I know I would like to enjoy the married life before having children. Also I have goals of having a large savings, buying a larger family home, and paying off my student loan before getting pregnant. Clearly I am way too practical lol. 

How long have you and your husband been together as a couple? Do you think you might look back and want to just enjoy the married life BEFORE having a baby? I think even though you are young, if you truly have the means to love and support a child, and both feel like you’re ready, then who cares how old you are. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i didn’t plan to wait until my 30’s to have a baby, that’s just the way it happened.  i didn’t find the love of my life until i was a little older.

that being said, if you are ready and your DH is ready, then you should.

or you can NTNP and see what happens.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

DH and I are both 25. We got married in May and immediately started NTNP. We were shocked at how quickly we got pregnant after just two cycles. Unfortunately I had a miscarriage but the miscarriage made us realize how badly we wanted a baby so we started full blown TTC and got pregnant again on our first cycle. 

With the first pregnancy we were so excited that we shared the news with our parents and we were actually surprised at their reactions. They were happy but just shocked and kept treating it like it was unplanned!  They couldn’t believe that we would intentionally get pregnant at “this age”. DH and I both have graduate level degrees, amazing jobs, own a house, two cars and have been together for 7 year but living together for 4 years. We are ready to start a family in our hearts. With this pregnancy we have chosen not to tell anyone until after the first tri, not even our parents because we don’t want this happy time clouded by judgement from family members who want us to wait longer. 

You will know when you’re ready. Only you and DH can make that decision for yourselves!  It’s okay to want to start a family young 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I am 25, and have been married 4.5 years.  We own two homes, have stable well-paid jobs, and I just do not feel ready to have a child.  There are a lot of things I still want to do: travel some more, finish completely remodeling our home, make more money… Sure, the thought of having a child sounds more and more appealing as I get older, but I realize there are a lot of things I will have to give up if we have one now.  I am not ready to let those things go just yet.   I probably will not start TTC until middle of 2016. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@KsoontobeN:  In all honesty, wait a few years and enjoy being married first.  I just turned 30 and got remarried (no children from my first marriage.)  All of the younger couples I spoke to said they wished they had waited until they were closer to 30 to have kids.  They missed out on traveling and partying and being able to sleep in on the weekends.  Make a Baby Bucket List of things you and your husband want to do before having kids.  Our Bucket List is almost complete.  All we have left is a 3 week trip to Europe next year.  I couldn’t imagine leaving an infant here in the U.S. while I toured Europe but I also have no desire to drag an infant around Europe with us.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@KsoontobeN:  I was 23 when we started TTC/I got KU! (DH, the old sack, is 29)

DH knew he wanted to be a Dad before his 30th birthday, so we started TTC on our wedding night and got KU on the honeymoon!

That being said, my career was also in infant care. So baby fever was a huge issue for me for a couple of years!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@KsoontobeN:  I have baby fever, but I am not ready for the responsibility for a baby.  Maybe in a year or two but definitely not now.  DH feels the same.  I am 26. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@terpalum10:  +1000 to your last line. I always say that if you think you’re 100% ready, you’re not! 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@KsoontobeN:  I thought I was an old soul, done with partying too.  Then I turned 26 and the last 4 years of my life have been a blast.  In my early 20s everyone was so stressful and everything was drama but once I hit my late 20s people calmed down enough to really be fun to hang out with.  I couldn’t imagine having a kid right now.  Soon, but not yet.

But you’ve gotta do what works best for you and your spouse.  Nobody can tell you what is best for you because at the end of the day it’s you that has to live your life.

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