Post # 1
I am so glad I came across this site a few minutes ago, because I love having people to talk to about wedding subjects, and other subjects as well, that aren’t annoyed with me!
To get myself started on posting, I want to ask if anyone else was/is going to be a “young bride”. I’m 19 years old, about to turn 20 and getting married this late summer/fall. Anytime someone sees my ring they always start by saying “Well aren’t you a little young?” Personally I see no age on when you can get married or are ready to.
I’m just wondering if anyone else understands the annoyance in this!
Post # 3
@colleenichole: I got engaged at 20 and married at 22 so I was pretty young I guess. I’ve been with DH for over 5 years now, so I definitely felt ready. I did get a couple of comments but I know my relationship better than anyone else so I didn’t really put much thought into the negative comments.
Post # 4
Wow, that’s incredibly rude of someone to comment on your young marriage unless it’s a very close friend or relative. I would be tempted to respond back with, “well aren’t you a little rude?” It’s your own business when you choose to get married! Jeesh.
Post # 5
I’m originally from the midwest, and a good portion of my friends from high school are engaged. I’ve recently relocated to Ireland and it seems like people wait much longer to get engaged here. FI and I get comments from people about being very young to be getting married. I think it’s all about culture, and it’s rude to pass judgement on others who might have been brought up in a slightly different manner than they were.
Post # 6
@colleenichole: I have a friend that got married at 20 and got the same “young” comments too. Likewise a friend got married at 23 and dealt with the same thing. Yet if you wait til 29 it’s all “oh well you better hurry and have babies and biological clock blah blah blah”
So you’ll never please everyone.
In some areas getting married young is more expected than others so, even though they’re being rude, they’re just reacting base on their own experience/upbringing.
Post # 7
@colleenichole: I’m somewhat young, 22 but my FI is definietly young, 20. I was 21 & he was 19 when we got engaged. He gets that comment more often than I do. Haha most men at that age aren’t think marriage!
Post # 9
I didn’t think so many of you would reply! I love all the comments. I’m the type to believe you get that certain feeling when you know you found the right person. We’ve lived together for over a year now and I am too excited to finally become a Mrs this year!
You ladies definitely have a point about some people being brought up around waiting vs not waiting to get married. I understand everyone has different views, but I guess some people don’t.
Post # 10
@colleenichole: I’m almost 24. FH just turned 25 in January. We’ve been together for 4 1/2 years and everyone close to us is excited and happy for us. I just ignore everyone else who passes judgment when they say that we’re too young, or that we don’t know what we want in life yet, etc. It’s none of their business.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm
I got engaged at 21 and married at 22. I have always looked younger than my age, so I got a lot of comments about not looking old enough to be getting married. In fact, I’m 26 now and I still get comments about looking too young to be married.
Post # 12
I am going to be a young bride (likely 22 or 23 when we get married), and I’ve been surprised with how few negative reactions we’ve had from friends and family when we discuss it. I”m sure when we actually get engaged, I may get a few comments, but I’ve always looked older, and I’m sure if I dont mention my age to anyone, it wont be an issue.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2018 - Lavender House Hotel
Im 21, My FI is 22, We got engaged this December just gone after being together for 7 and a bit years. We had a few comments and his sister in particular is insistant on passing judgement, but at the end of the day we know our relationship better than anyone and so as long as we are happy, thats all that matters.
There is a famous quote by Dr Seuss that comes to mind. “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind”
Post # 14
I’ve been getting these sorts of comments for a long time! I got pregnant at 20, and engaged a month after I turned 21 so it was a double whammy there. It didn’t work out (thank the lord). I’m about to get engaged again at 23. my SO is 21. His family thinks he is WAY too young and basically that i’m taking advantage of him and ruining his life. It’s hard not to take it personal but I know that we are in love and have a clear sense of direction on where we want to go in life.
Haters gunna hate. 🙂
Post # 15
I think with the world will live in, you hear about the awful marriages, terrible divorce situations and every little thing that doesn’t work out. No one talks about the wonderful marriages and happy lives. So when you’re young, and people assume you’re rushing and have no clue about the work a marriage takes (blah, blah, blah), no one thinks you’ll make it. I’m not self conscious about getting married young, it just gets irritating when people make remarks. Like I said before, we’ve lived together over a year and I think that’s the real test.
Post # 16
My personal opinion is that in general, getting married young is not always the best idea. I look back on myself at that age… and I am so glad I didn’t marry. I was with the wrong person and I grew up a lot since then. I married at 28 and it seems to be working out fine so far, anyway lol. I just don’t understand the rush to marry at 18, 19, 20, 21 etc. Negative remarks about marrying young usually come from a good place… not just to annoy the couple.