Post # 1
My fiance and I fall into the category of “young” (early 20s), and we are currently both still in school (but full-time jobs are in the relatively near future).
We want to go to Europe for our honeymoon, and even though it is quite an expense, I feel that it is the right thing to do for us. However, I feel like we are constantly being judged by others who think we don’t know how to handle our finances and that we are immature for even getting married before we have “real” jobs.
To other young brides: Where are you going on your honeymoon? And how do you handle the negative attitudes (if any) from other people?
I hope we can support each other through this. 🙂
Post # 3
My husband and I couldn’t go on a honeymoon because we didn’t have the money at the time and we moved a month after the wedding. As long as you can afford it, then I say go for it!
Post # 4
I’m not a young bride anymore, and I’m pushing it taking a total of 7 days off for the wedding (and two whole weekends in a row of not working!). There aren’t many other times in your life when you can take off a whole chunk of time and run around Europe. Go for it.
Post # 5
You’ll never regret taking time off to travel! I agree with monitajb, if you have the time and can afford to do it, go for it and enjoy! Life just gets more complicated as you get older and settle into work routines, so now is such a wonderful time to see the world!
Maybe you could say to naysayers something like, “We feel so fortunate to have found one another, to be ready to commit to one another, and to be at a time in our lives where we have the ability to get away for an extended honeymoon to celebrate” and leave it at that. Hopefully they won’t push too hard. Most importantly, do what’s right for you and good luck!
Post # 6
If you can afford it, go! I would love to go to Europe, especially before hitting the “real world.” You’re likely not going to have this much time in the near future, so travel where you want now. My Fiance and I talked about Europe, but we can’t afford it, so (if he has planned a honeymoon yet and I don’t think he has) we’re going to Mexico.
Post # 7
We’re a young couple and we decided that even though money is tight, a honeymoon is a must. Hopefully one day we will both be raking in the dough and will be able to jet off to anywhere we want without a second thought, but when that day comes, it won’t really be our honeymoon! I think never again will we have that combination of freedom, excitement, passion, etc. that we will have (hopefully) in the days after the wedding. We’re going on a 2 week honeymoon to Paris and Nice.
Post # 8
we’re going to postpone our honeymoon until the next big school break for him (i’ll be working), and that way we can save up a little bit after the wedding. we’re thinking of doing an all inclusive resort cause they’re usually not too bad…
Post # 9
Who is judging you? Is it family/close friends or random acquaintances?
We took a two-week trip to Europe right after graduating college last year before starting our jobs. We didn’t get any negative comments from people because everyone knew we had the jobs lined up. We spoke to people frankly about our financial situation and the decisions we were making to alleviate any concerns. I suggest you do the same (if the comments are coming from family or close friends). If not, your finances really aren’t their business, so I wouldn’t feel the need to justify myself.
Finally, if a lot of people really are concerned about your financial situation, do you think there might be some truth to their comments? Usually when several people point something out to me, they’re at least partially right.
EDIT: To second some of the other posters, one big benefit of traveling now is the ability to take time off. It’s definitely been a huge adjustment for me this year going from college to being in the workforce and unable to take many days off.
Post # 10
Do it. I don’t think you will ever regret traveling unless it puts you into serious debt.
Post # 11
I second @missAsB…my FH and I are moving at basically the EXACT same time (a little before and a little after) the wedding…to a whole different STATE so we won’t have time! His parents are giving us money instead of paying for the honeymoon and right now moving, getting settled into a new place and new jobs, makes the most sense to us. We *do* plan to take a “mini ‘moon” but nothin beyond a nice weekend somewhere in the Austin (where we are moving) area. We may be able to take a nice honeymoon for our 1 year anniversary (job permitting)
Post # 12
I know, we really should just go for it…
When I say people are judgmental, I mean that they are not as excited/supportive/joyful as I think they would be if someone else had told them they were going to Europe. That might just be my paranoia, but I do think I can sense that from some people.
And no one has explicitly commented on our financial situation, but I feel that people do still judge and that makes me feel bad and uncomfortable.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2011 - AnthonyÃ¢Â€Â™s Fine Dining
We’re also 20-somethings AND we wanna go to Europe! We’ll have grown-up jobs by the time we get married, so depending on how much we’re making, we’ve decided that it’s okay if we postpone the honeymoon. I’d rather put it off a few months and do what I want than settle for a second choice! We’ll get to do it within the next couple of years and that’s all that matters to me 🙂
Post # 14
dont have the money but if it magically shows up def backpacking through europe
Post # 15
We’re just traveling to Seattle. I’ve been to Europe previously and Fiance has no desire to really travel much, he’s too in love with the Inland Empire to want to go somewhere else. It’ll be about a week or so and the hotel and condo we’re staying in will cost about $1k and we’ll have about $1k to spend hopefully. It’s something we’ll both enjoy a lot.
Post # 16
His parents are giving us the money to go to the Bahamas, but of course MY dad has to be the one saying that we should use the 3000 for something practical. That’s what we will be doing our whole lives, this might be our only chance and we’re taking it!