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    MrsSpinella09    December 19, 2009   West Virginia

    Me and my DH just got married in December and are waiting 2 years until we are going to ttc. I noticed a lot of other brides are going into it right after the wedding.We both have school and are waiting until he graduates to start trying. So what about all the other brides? And if you are in school when you get married mention that as well. :) 

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    We're not married yet, but will be tying the knot in between undergrad and grad school. We plan to TTC in our late 20's, depending how how our careers are going, how we feel, etc. So most likely we will wait about 6 years between being married and TTC. :)

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I'll be done with school when we get married, but he'll have about a year left. We plan on waiting for 3 or 4 years after we get married!

     
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    I got married at 23 (which I guess is pretty young) and my husband was 27.. it's been two years and we plan on waiting another 5-6 years. I went back to school for a second degree and my husband is a Naval Officer- it's just not in our cards at the moment. So I guess it'll be 7-8 years after our wedding when we have children- I'll be in my late 20's-early 30's my husband will be in his mid-30's.

     
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    JoesWifey    May 24, 2009   NYC/Wedding in Indiana

    I'm really really hoping we can start in about a year, which would make it two years after the wedding. I'd be 23, but 24 by the time the baby was born and Mr. Joe 26. Mr. Joe would still be in grad school for another year (if he's accepted this year), but I would be just finishing up as we start TTC. It would be great timing, if everything works out as we're hoping.

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    We will be 22 (me) and 24 (him) when we get married, so we don't have plans to have children any time soon... we will probably wait at least 5 years, until we're in our late 20s. I'm spending time with my MOH and her two little kids right now, and I know for sure that I am not ready to be a parent!

     
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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    I'm 23 and my husband is 22. We'd like to wait about 4-5 years to have kids.

    What does TTC stand for? I know it's in reference to having kids, but what exactly does it mean? I can't figure it out!!

     
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    ceamoste    September 3, 2011  

    TTC= trying to concieve?

    when we get married i'll be done school, and 21, FI will still have a year and a half left, and he'll be 22.

    after he's done we plan on teaching abroad for a year, and then we'd like to come back, buy a house, and make sure all debts are paid off. also - i'd like to work for a year somewhere to make sure that i have benefits in place...

     so between marriage and ttc i'd say 5-7 years depending on how finances go?

     
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    Jenniphyr    February 2, 2013   Alberta, Canada

    My fiance and I have both agreed that we want to have our child before I'm 25. So, if we get married when I'm 22 (which is what I'll probably be when we tie the knot, with our projected date), then we'll have 2.5 years or so to conceive. We'll probably start trying after about one to one-and-a-half years.

     
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    jslsbride62610    June 2010  

    We are 20 and 21 and getting married this summer, as well as finishing college over the summer.  We want to have kids around 25.  I'd say 23, earliest.  So, 3-5 years?  But who really knows, anything could change by then.

     
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    veganglam    January 5, 2013   Philadelphia; Wedding in NYC

    We're marrying shortly after we start grad school (so around age 23-24), in 2012.  We won't be trying to conceive until we're both out of grad school and have jobs, so around age 30.  Additionally, we won't be able to legally marry until that age anyway, unless the health care laws are revised dramatically, since he needs to stay on his parents' health insurance plan as long as he can (till age 30).

     
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    tbk041710    04-17-10   Augusta, GA

    Since my FI is 7 years older, as soon as I graduate next year we will TTC.  We will be married for a year by then so we will probably have two years before children. 

     
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    Miss Apricot    May 30, 2009   Minnesota

    We're both 26 and were married in May.  After the wedding, I gave up my (crappy) FT job to go to school for Massage Therapy.  I don't really want to have to be at class at 8:30 in the morning while dealing with morning sickness, plus we just got new insurance which doesn't cover maternity stuff for at least a year, so we will probably start TTC in about a year.

     
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    zippylef    October 30, 2010   Norfolk, UK

    We are going to wait at least until his 4 years in the Air Force is up to see if he decides to stay in or not. We're 22, so about 25 or so? Late 20s, but we want to be done by 30 and we only want 2 at most.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I was 23 when we got married (he was 26). We're now 24 and 27. We want to have our first before he turns 30, so I'm looking at 2 years probably. We really don't want any yet!

     
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    katiebug    July 31, 2010  

    I'm 25, and FI is 26 (same ages we will be at the wedding).  We are on a 5 year plan with the idea of TTC when I am right around 30.  I'm just starting my career and need some time to get established before we have kids.

     
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    Aubergold    May 2012   DC metro

    we want to wait about 8 years after we get married.

     
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    msgiraffe    May 2011   Chicago

    I'm 22 and will be getting married at 23 (FI will be 24). We're hoping to have babies at 26 so it'll be about two years :).

     
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    I'm 24 and out of school, FI is 23 and is starting a PhD program in July. We are getting married in May and are waiting 5 years to TTC.

     
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    MichelleMyBell    August 13 2010   London, Ontario CA

    We'll both be 21 when we get married. I'll have 2 more years of school and then I want to work for a year to pay off student debts before we ttc, so I'm guessing 3-4 years.

    I wish we could have one now though Embarassed

     
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    VirginiaMarie    January 2011   Austin, TX

    I'm 24, he's 25.  We'll wait to try for probably 2-3 years, til he starts his residency.  To be honest, I don't know that I have the patience for kids any time soon.   I like "me" time.

     
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    Bamboo    June 2010   Midwest

    Well I will be 22 and fiance 24, almost 25. I'm planning at minimum 5 years. I would like to finish grad school, get on track career-wise, and buy a home first. But part of me wants to wait longer...everytime we talk about it my fiance says my time frame gets longer and longer. haha. He's going to have to get his kid fill from our nephew and my little brother for a while.

     
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    December    December 12, 2008   Minneapolis,MN/Jackson,MS

    Our plan was to wait until DH was farther along into graduate school... maybe almost done with his doctorate, or at least with his masters. What ACTUALLY happened was we got pregnant accidentally three months in, and now he'll be starting his master's when our daughter is 8 months old.

     

     
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    The plan is 4 to 5 years... I need to figure out what I want to do with my own life before we bring another one into this world!

     
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    AzinAugust    August 2010   Sedona, AZ

    Siiigh, well I'm 25, and will be 26 when we're married and the FI will be 33. I graduate 2 weeks before the wedding with my doctorate, which means i have some student loan debt. We agreed we wanted to have those mostly paid off before we have babies - So we're waiting 2-3 years. I'm glad to not leap into the mommy position immediately, it gives us time to establish our married relationship first. :o)

    (Not a knock against those who jump into mommy-hood ya'll are awesome)

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    I am 22 and will be 24 when we get married. I agree with Azin- I want some time to be a wife and enjoy our marriage before we move toward parenthood. Nothing against anyone who TTC early; I am just not in that place. We plan to TTC around age 29 or 30.

     
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    mssocks    October 10, 2010  

    I'll be 24 when we get married...does that still qualify me as a younger bride (eek!)?  Fi will be 26, almost 27.  We've agreed that we'll start ttc when I'm about 27 or 28 and he'll be about 30/31.  I'm excited, but I definitely think it's best for us to wait for a bit and enjoy married life for awhile before kiddies!

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    @Mandy: I'm with you! And according to my parents, we'll still be younger brides at 24. :)

     
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    mssocks    October 10, 2010  

    Oh whew!  

    I was worried for a second there!  lol, thanks gemstone!

     
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    Toffee    January 15, 2011   Hayden, Id

    We're thinking probably 5+ years. The original timeline was as soon as we get FI's restaurant going and my bakery, but we'll have to see because I want to do it before 30 or 35 so I won't be an old mom!

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    You're welcome!!! And don't worry...I'm right there with you on wanting to stay a "young bride" for as long as possible!

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    We're planning on waiting a few years before TTC after the wedding.

     
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    CheesetomyWhine    10/30/10   Rhode Island

    I'll have just turned 21 when we get married and FI will be 24. I have another two maybe two and a half years left before I get my degree. Ideally we would wait about 4 to 5 years from now (so 2014-2015) so I can work for a little but we both really want a baby so maybe in two years (2012). It depends on how schools going. We already have a house but we'd like to be able to enjoy married life for a bit and get to go to Ireland with friends!

     
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    Miss Yap    02/20/10   Dallas

    We are 25 and 24 and honestly not really going to start trying until we feel ready. No real timeline. Probably not anytime soon though

     
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    stargal34    August 21, 2010  

    im 22 (almost 23) were gonna start trying in about a year and a half. thats when my fiance will be done with his degree. i already have a degree adn work full time, i am currently going back to school partime. i cant wait to have kids!

     
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    MichelleMyBell    August 13 2010   London, Ontario CA

    I said in my previous post that we'll probably wait 3-4 year because of school. But to clarify, if it weren't for school I think we'd ttc right after the wedding.  Money's the only issue.

     
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    soonerpsych    June 26, 2010   Oklahoman at heart, now in Southwest FL

    We're also getting married between undergrad and grad school, so no babies until after grad school.  I'd really like a couple years of just being married and on a normal schedule without worrying about things before kids.  But who knows, I may be 30 something by that point and we want 4 kids.

     
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    mrsmdphd    April 17, 2009  

    Well, we'll be 23 and 24 when we get married, and FI will have just finished his first year of an 8 year graduate program (he's in a MD/PhD dual degree program, because apparently being a doctor once-over was not quite enough).  I will be starting my PhD program a few months after the wedding and I'll have 5 years of that.  Luckily for us, we're both getting paid to go to school, so no debt and we're not hurting for money, but between a mortgage payment and...you know...living...we're also not rolling in dough.  So it's important to us to have a lot in savings before we start TTC since we won't be getting raises or anything while we're in grad school.  Also, right now we live in an industrial loft that doesn't have any walls or anything, so it's not exactly conducive to a nursery....and if we do get pregnant, we'd need to be moving out pretty quickly.  But because of the investment we've made, we really need to stay here for several more years before we sell.  So that's another consideration.  Long story short: we'll probably start TTC in 3-4 years...though we're kind of impatient and that's going to be tough for us. ;)

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    We will wait anywhere from 2-5 years before we start trying. We are trying to see how our careers are headed before we try.

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    I'll be 23 next week and 23 at the time of the wedding (june) and my FH will be almost 24 when we get married. We REALLY both have baby fever :) But we want to wait atleast a year.

     

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