Weddingbee boards

I'm 21, but I have been with my partner for 5 1/2 years before he proposed, and it will be 7 1/2 years total by the time we are married. I actually see older brides rush into marriage more than younger brides, and honestly I don't get it but that may be because I'm on the total opposite end of the spectrum. If you want to spend the rest of your lives together, then what's the harm in waiting a little while to make sure it will work? No matter how mature or intelligent you are, there is such thing as a honeymoon period. I don't think there is a set time, but I really do think couples should be together for at least 12 months before marrying. Call me judgemental if you like, but it's really not that long in the grand scheme of things.

I don't think theres a magic number that determines for each couple when they should get married. And even if sometimes people get married after months of knowing each other, I don't think they should be judged. 

To me, what really matters in marriage is who both partners are focusing on and whats important to them. They need to have a solid foundation that is neverchanging. Face it, people change. The person you knew in the beginning of the relationship isn't who they are now, no matter if its been 4 months or 4 years.

For me, the solid foundation is our relationship with Christ. Our foundation is not eachother and I thats why we are able to overcome our selfish desires. Because we realize its not about us. From there no matter how hard things get, we know we will get through it together because of our common foundation. It is stronger than anything on earth, and that is why we are considered "one" when married. Because the bond between the 2 people is inhumanely strenghted by the power of God. This is his blessing for those who choose to get married. But it must be done for the right reason. If your not getting married for the right reason then it doesn't matter how long you've known the person, your marriage will not last. Whether its 5 months down the line or 56 years. I can't tell you what the right reasons are, God will reveil it to you if you ask him.

And by "the right reason", I'm not talking about because your so in love, or because your family wants you to, or because you want to move in together, or you can't hold off sex any longer. Those are all your reasons. They are not reason's from God. The right reason would be for what God intended marriage to be, If you are willing to uphold that, then God is on your side, and he'll be with you through your entire marriage. And that is what makes marriage, marriage.That is what keeps marriage sacred. Not what the majority of people today have turned it into.

Agree with lilyfaith! My FH and I met when we were 15 and have been unseperateable since then!  We are both 19 now and have been dating for 4 years.  Although we don't plan to marry till we are 22, we feel like we got a "heads start" on love compared to most couples our age.  We aren't rushing anything, we are just madly in love and ready to start a life together.  

I'm still a waiting bee but I've been with my SO since we were fifteen. We are now twenty and plan on getting engaged soon and married when we are 21.  Yes, we have been together quite a while but you have to keep in mind that like us many people don't believe in living together, having sex, etc. before marriage.  Many people, like you, recognize that their SO is "the one" very early and want to have the full experience of marriage and building a home and family together.  On the other hand there are many people out there that are just young, impulsive, and frankly stupid.  Just remember that some people have personal reasons.  My grandparents were 16 and 18 when they got married.  They met and were married three months later and I have never seen two people more in love!