Post # 1
I have been with my FI for 2 1/2 years, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. The thing is… I’m only 20. No one in my family has said anything mean and they love Drew to death but I’m worried that it does bother them that I’m so young. I’m not planning on getting married until 2011 so I’ll be 22. Is there anyone else getting married young or who got married young that would like to share thoughts?
Post # 3
I don’t think that 22 is too young to get married 🙂 I’ll be 26 but as long as you’re happy who cares what anyone else thinks?
Post # 4
I second what Corgi said. I think that as long as you have been together a bit (not like 6 months and you’re 18 and omg gotta get married kinda thing) – which is seems like you have, and honestly KNOW eachother, you shouldn’t care what others think. I’ll be 24, close to 25 next year when we marry (and FI will be almost 27). 🙂
Post # 5
You should read through Mrs. Star’s blog entries on young-ish brides!
Post # 6
Im currently 20 and I have been married for 4 months now. Ive been with my husband with dating/marriage over 3 years. I know many people were against me getting married so young but honestly i couldnt be happier. its your maturity and not your age that determines if your ready!
I say if you feel your ready then thats all that matters! congrats to both of you!!
Post # 7
Maybe it does, but you know what–YOU’RE the one in the relationship, not them. So as long as they keep their naysays quiet (everybody has doubts about others–even long timers, people can’t help but be skeptical sometimes about everybody else!) and are supportive to you guys, that’s all that matters.
If it REALLY bothered them, i’m sure your parents would mention it. It’s not like you’re talking about getting married Right.Now. You’ll be 22…that’s definitely a more acceptable age. Not that it isn’t…just saying parents get used to the idea of 22 because you’re out of college by then. That’s the big thing i’ve heard–getting married when you’ve graduated versus before kind of stuff.
Post # 8
I’ll probably be getting married at 22 as well; my sister married at 20, well before she graduated, and five years later she’s a tenured teacher, happily married, building a house, and has a baby on the way. Some people know what they want and don’t let age become an obstacle.
There are so many misunderstandings about getting married young…but there are problems at any age, you know? You’re the only one that can make this decision and if you are dedicated to making it work, it will work.
Post # 9
I think waiting until you are 22 should silence any negative comments you might get. It’s one thing to get engaged young, but quite another to get engaged young and make it through a 2 year engagement.
I am so thankful I waited until now (28) to get married, but I was a very immature 20 year old – definitely would not have made a good wife.
Post # 10
Hi Miss Belle!
I am a lot like you! I started dating my (now) fiance when I was 18, and by the time we were 20/21, we knew for sure we wanted to get married. We are waiting until 2011 (so I will be 24) to get married because I need to finish grad school, but it is a pretty similar situation. We got engaged about 8 months ago, right before I turned 22, and my dad made a couple of comments about how young we are.
As long as the two of you will have your lives somewhat in order (which is why we are waiting till I get my masters), I don’t see any *real* reason for your parents to get too upset, unless they are just having trouble letting go, which is a the case for mine.
Don’t let anyone second guess you! 🙂
Post # 11
I think your plan is good-as long as it works for you. That’s all that really matters. I started dating my FI when we were 15, got engaged at 20, and will be 21 when we get married, and both families couldn’t be happier!
Post # 12
I’m 22, will be 23 when we get married, and its awesome! As long as you love each other and know that you will spend the rest of your life with each other, than thats all that matters!
Post # 13
I was 21 and my husband was 22 when we got married. We got engaged when we were 19 though but we kept it a secret for a while because we weren’t planning on getting married until after we graduated college and we didn’t want our parents getting upset about it and thinking that we were going to get married sooner.
Post # 14
I’m getting married June 13 at 18 and my fiance will be 20. I know i’ll get some nasty comments, but that’s perfectly fine. We have been dating for 3 years. My family feels that we’re both mature enough to start a life together. i suppose you wouldn’t really understand unless you knew us personally. I think ppl should be judged by their relationship, not by their ages. My fiance andi are very traditional….we believe that a couple should be married before living together or having children. My famiy weren’t surprised at all when we announced we were engaged.
Post # 15
I don’t think 22 is too young to get married either. I will be 25 when I get married, FI will be 26. I agree with the above posters, it really depends more on your maturity level than your actual age.
Post # 16
I’m 18 and my FH is 20. We’ve been together for almost 5 and a half years. As long as everything goes as planned, we’re planning to get married 3 months before i turn 20. so i think its just fine 🙂