(Closed) Young guests coming after dinner

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would normally think this is awful, but because of your specific circumstances, I think it’s fine. Have you talked to your venue about this? Make sure it’s okay with them and how much they may make you pay per person coming for those last few hours.

Post # 4
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree that normally I think it’s a bad idea to invite people to come after dinner, but I think this is great for your specific circumstances!

Post # 5
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think it works for this situation. Will their parents be comfortable with them being out late though? Will you need to invite them as well? 

Post # 6
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would be incredibly insulted if I were invited to a reception after the dinner portion. I would feel as though I were not important enough to be invited to the “real” reception–if it’s not within your means to feed a guest, don’t invite them. I’d honestly rather not be invited at all than invited as a “B List” guest who isn’t provided the same accommodations as other guests.

However, since you’re close to these girls, if you’ve talked to them about it already, and they seem to understand and aren’t upset about it, I don’t really see a problem with it. I’m just saying that I personally would have a problem with being invited this way. Even though you clearly have the best of intentions, there might be some girls among the group who think like I do and those few people might be offended.

Best of luck with planning!

Post # 7
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think yours is a good solution.  Many of my friends back in Wisconsin are teachers of younger students (elementary) and it’s customary in their circles for the children to be invited to the ceremony but not the reception.  They get so excited and it’s great for the teacher too.  I suppose it may be different in other areas of the country though.

My only concern might be if there’s drinking and potential “misbehavior” (not sure how else to put it).  The receptions I’ve been to normally get pretty crazy after dinner.

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