Post # 1
Alright, the story is:
I am supposed to get married Sunday, September 1st, 2013 (Labor day weekend). My whole wedding is done. I got my dress about 8 weeks ago and I LOVE it! Well within this past week I found out I am 5 weeks pregnant (totally unplanned) and am due December 18th, 2013.
We talked about either moving the wedding up to Sunday, May 27th, 2013 (memorial day weekend) or waiting until May 2014.
We keep choosing holiday weekends as we have TONS of guests from out of state and even country.
Post # 3
If you move it up to this May, can all of your friends from far away still come!? If they can, I would say go for it! It will be so stressful to have a baby and get get the whole wedding together next year!
Post # 4
If I were you I would move it up to May this year or othwise May next year.
Post # 5
@sclark1991: have you tried contacting your vendors, and have asked if they’re available next month? Their availability (or perhaps lack of), may help you make your decision.
Also think about your guests–they are coming from out of town/state, so they will have to make the necessary travel arrangements, as well as bring a gift. Perhaps having a few months to save is what they required, but now they might only have 1 month to save.
Post # 6
@sclark1991: Is your original date totally out of the question? What does your dress look like? can you fit in it with a little belly? or do you not want to be showing at all?
Post # 7
Talk to your vendors? See if any of them are even available for this May and/or if they are willing to carry over any deposits on either date. I would think you’d be scrambling a little more to have a wedding next month & some of your guests may not be in the position to travel to a wedding within a month. I would honestly go with 2014.
Post # 8
I have contacted my vendors, my venue and catering is good to go. Still waiting to hear from the rest.
Our family from out of state will have no problems. Our family from Europe, Brazil and Thailand will have an issue I might have to sacrifice it?
I am a nervous wreck. My parents are paying for this wedding and I know they will be upset about the timing (They still don’t know and won’t until Saturday night at family dinner).
Post # 9
@AllieBee12: It’s a trumpet. My first pregnancy I stayed tiny but I had my son at 16. This time I don’t think i’ll be so lucky.
It’s a pretty tight fit as it is. :/
Post # 10
this is NOT me in my dress but this shows the dress better than the stock picture.
Post # 11
I’d definitely do it this may! way easier to get married a little pregnant thatn with a little baby
Post # 12
I would do it this May. however, isnt that short notice for all your guests? That is only a month from now and airfare and hotels for Memorial weekend looking this late may be a nightmare!
Post # 13
If you want to get married before your baby comes I would elope. I would cancel your wedding on Labor Day and then invite close friends and family to join you for your elopment over Memorial Day since it looks like your vendors might be available. Since you have people traveling from outside the country, it might be a bit much to ask them to change their flight and all their arrangements and such on short notice for the wedding. If you invte them to an elopement maybe it will be less pressure on them to spend the extra money? It might feel less formal and more like “Hey were are getting married if you can make it great! If not we totally understand”. Not sure if that makes sense.
The other option I think would be to postpone till next year or buy a new dress and stick with your original date. Good luck!
Post # 14
I agree with pp about considering eloping, or just moving your wedding like you to include anyone that is available. As for your Labor Day wedding you could always do a reception/baby shower and invite the international guests.
Post # 15
I would also consider eloping, mainly because it seems easier at this point, especially with a kid on the way. Congrats on the upcoming baby btw!
And lol your original date was on my birthday, haha. Completely unrelated, I know.
Post # 16
One thing to consider is that in Sept you’ll be in the midst of your 3rd trimester and will likely be feelign better than next month. But of course, this is your second child, so you’ll have the best idea about how you’ll be feeling.