Post # 1
Just curious what some other peoples’ stories are about their engagements and how their parents reacted.
I’m 21 and my Fiance is 28. We haven’t officially announced the engagement and he hasn’t proposed yet, but we have the ring and the plans will soon be in motion.
I’m a little worried at how my parents will react. I’m worried that they’ll think I’m too young.
I do, however, run my own business. I’m done with school and have two credentials behind my name (LMT and RYT!) and I’m building my business. Fiance has a stable job and also a side business (he’s an artist), so financially there are no concerns. My older brother and his Fiance are engaged and even though they’re 25 they don’t have stable jobs at the moment and are planning on going back to grad school.
And my Fiance and I both have been the ones that “nobody worries about”… in that we have siblings that people wonder about how they’ll end up but we’ve always been viewed as the “responsible, mature” ones.
All of my friends are waiting in anticipation along with my aunts and uncles and his aunts and uncles and friends. Extended family has made comments to us about “so… when are you guys getting married??”
I worry though about their reaction even though the only reason I could think of that they wouldn’t be happy is that they would look at my age and overlook all of my other accomplishments.
I’m definitely curious what their reactions will be… sometimes my mom especially can be worried about other peoples’ judgments which makes HER in turn judgmental..
What have other younger brides’ parents’ reactions been? Have they been predictable, or were you pleasantly (or maybe not so pleasantly) surprised?
Post # 3
I’m in a similar boat. I’m 20, my SO is 28. He’s stable and secure, and while I am not at the moment, I will have a degree and solid resume when we get married, and my SO has the means to support both of us as I job hunt.
My close friends all know we have a ring and are getting officially engaged this winter. His mum knows and seems happy. My cousin (who’s more like a sister to me) is excited for us to get married.
I haven’t mention anything to my parents though because I am afraid of their reaction. They like my SO just fine. But I think they will be concerned that I’m getting married at 21. But mostly I think they fret over the fact that I will move 5,000 miles away to another country to be with him. My mother never brings it up because she hates to think about it. :/
If circumstances were different and we waited another couple years, I think they would be absolutely thrilled. Right now I am not sure, and it makes me sad that they may not be overjoyed at my engagement.
I am very interested to see what others have to say!
Post # 4
@YogaFaerie: I’m 21, was 20 at the time of the proposal and my Fiance is 27. He is an engineer with an extremely stable job. I’m in school go graduate 6 months before the wedding. My parents all love my Fiance and know that they won’t have to worry about my financial stability. My stepmom is afraid that I won’t grow as my own person bevause I’ll be married at such a young age. My extended family for some reason assumed that getting a ring meant I was dropping out of school.. Once they knew that wasn’t true they were all extremely happy for us!
Post # 5
I was surprised at how happy my mom was (dad is not in the picture). She had to have known it was coming eventually, we moved 2000 miles away together, together for 2.5 years, and living together.
I actually sent her an email the night I was proposed to. Firstly because it was well past 2 am on the east coast, and I didn’t want to hear her first reaction.
She was very pleasant and congratulatory. I expected for Fiance and I to pay for the wedding 100% by ourselves (which would have postponed the wedding a couple of years) and she offered that same day to help…I found out ‘help’ was about 80% so that was an awesome surprise.
Fiance and my mom didn’t get off to a good start in the beginning of the relationship, and that’s a nice way of putting it. I’m very lucky with how much support I am getting, financial and emotional.
Post # 6
im 19 and hes 23, so a bit younger. Everyone knew it before we even told them, and everyone is wickedly excited no coments about my age from my family lol.
But I just never saw the point in waiting untill we are established. I mean we allready have a house and living together acting like a married couple. Getting married isnt going to mess with our future plans. I wont be popping out kids anytime soon thats for sure. and at least now if anyone got us a gift it would be relavent xD