Post # 1
I’m having six people in my bridal party…4 bridesmaids and 2 bridesmen. The two guys are my brothers, two girls are my best friends, and one girl is my cousin. I’m thinking of asking another friend to be my sixth, but I’ve run into a bit of family bridal drama.
Apparently, someone (grandma maybe?) gave my younger female cousin the idea that she might be a bridesmaid as well. I hadn’t even considered this because she’ll be a junior in high school and we’re not very close, but now I’m afraid I’ll hurt her feelings if I don’t ask her – especially since my only other female cousin is a bridesmaid. However, that cousin is my age and we’re much closer.
I haven’t asked my sixth yet, and I don’t know what to do. I’d much rather ask my friend, but I really don’t want to hurt my cousin. My cousin would be almost 10 years younger than everyone else in the bridal party. Is there another way I could make her involved with the wedding that I’m not thinking of? (aka not the dreaded guestbook duty). I think she’d hate doing a reading, too…she’s very shy.
Post # 3
If you don’t want her to be a bridesmaid or junior maid, maybe have her be an usher? I think it would be nice if you could have her be a BM, especially since your other cousin is. However, I understand that you two aren’t close. Sorry, I am not much help!
Post # 4
What about having her be a Junior Maid. She could pass out the programs, direct everyone to the guestbook, and to their seats.
Post # 5
Don’t feel bad about this for a second. If you want to include her somehow, try to find a way (handing out programs, etc), but don’t ask her to be a BM out of guilt. I’ve been to plenty of weddings where only one cousin is in the bridal party, and that’s because they are close to the bride or groom and the other cousins aren’t. You are so far apart in age that I don’t know if she’d be comfortable being your BM to begin with. I say go with the friend, because ultimately the people standing up there with you should be people you really want in your party.
Post # 6
what exactly is her age? she could be aJr. bridesmaid or do a reading.
Post # 7
I would put her in charge of the guest book anyways but put her in the same dress, jewelry, and shoes as the bridesmaids.. have her in pics too. That way she is included but not technically a bridesmaid!