(Closed) Younger sister developed crush on another man other then her bf

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think she needs to talk to her bf about the fact that he is projecting his insecurities on her. Something like, “I know how you feel, but the more you act this way around other guys, the more I get the feeling you don’t trust me.”  Of course, he’s going to say he trusts her not them, but then she needs to make him realize that until he lets her prove her trust, there is going to be issues. I guarantee she is having these feelings because of the way her bf acts, he’s smothering her

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think the worrisome thing here is how controlling and possessive her boyfriend is.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It has always been my experience that when a woman feels something towards another man it is because there is something that she’s not getting in her current relationship.  It is healthy to look at other men, but to actually have feelings for them is a little different.  If everything that you are saying is true and can be taken at face value, then the best advice you can give your sister is to spend more time thinking about her current relationship than she does about the new object of her affections. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s hard to tell, I can tell you it’ll pass because maybe she just wants attention.

In my experience sometimes you’ve been with certain person so long that you forget how it is to have someone liking you, and it makes you feel special when someone notices you. That doesn’t mean there are romantic feelings there, and sometimes it only makes you appreciate your SO even more, although sometimes it might be an indication of something missing in the relationship.

All in all, it’s still a crush and she can get over it soon. If it doesn’t go away she might need to evaluate her relationship and fing what’s missing.

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