(Closed) Your actual thoughts on your Ering… Proud to show it of, or ashamed?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You have such a rad attitude about this.

I saw a post recently where someone said all the things that went ‘wrong’ with wedding were the memories that lasted the longest. It seems that the ring itself doesn’t matter. Remembering the days when you couldn’t afford a nice ring are beautiful thoughts that will last forever. 

I knew Fiance couldn’t afford a crazy ring. Rather than be “ashamed” at how small my solitaire was I just chose to look at different styles of rings… We got an anniversary band instead that sparkles like crazy. Its a beautiful engagement ring; very unique and very much within our budget. I get compliments left right and centre.

I think it’s an awesome thing to enjoy whatever you have…. it was given with love even if it wasn’t perfect. If it was given with love, and isn’t that what matters?

Post # 4
14498 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

All my engagement ring cost my FH was his favorite butcher knife.  He hand crafted my ring with his own two hands and I am so in love with it that I will never give it up.  FH tried to attach a diamond, didn’t work, but it left a tiny inperfection in the ring and I love that too.  FH is unhappy with the ring, because it isn’t perfect and because he couldn’t attach the diamond.  So the FH and I went out and purchased a specially made diamond wrap for it, so we will not be able to pick it up for months after our wedding and I will still prob never wear it.  I LOVE MY RING!  Hand made with love from my love because we love.

Post # 5
2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t understand why anyone would ever be ‘ashamed’ of a ring, but I can understand that a woman may still covet a larger stone or different setting.

Does this mean she is any less grateful for what she has? Not necessarily!

I love my wedding set, but that does not mean the green eyed monster does not come out occasionally : ) 

Post # 7
4109 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would’ve been proud of anything he got me. I do love my ring, but it’s because he chose it & gave it to me- it’s not even my style, lol. In my opinion, my ring is substantial diamond size-wise. And I’ve still gotten rude comments from other women asking if I’ll upgrade in the future, obviously because they didn’t think it’s big enough for THEM. So I can imagine the nastyness that comes from having any smaller of a ring, especially after reading some of the stories here. Or *gasp* a ring with no stones at all. Bottom line- people are dumb.

The ring is NOT the relationship- agreed. Don’t get me wrong, I love jewelry . But I’m much more impressed when a couple tells me they’ve been together for 20,30,50 etc years & are still happliy in love than I am when a girl shows me huge diamond engagement ring.

“do people care more about the ring and the wedding than they do about the marriage?” Short answer- YES! I never paid attention to specifically erings or the details at weddings until I was engaged. Now I’m obsessed kinda, but it’s my time- I’m 29, have the most wonderful man I’ve ever known by my side & I’m READY! Do I care more about a party & material things more than our relationship- no. Sadly, I know alot of women who do. Like I said, people are dumb & superficial. Someone will always try to make you feel inferior to them regardless. It’s up to you to take that power away from them & remember that you’ve got the real thing.

Post # 8
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I feel you on this one completely. My Fiance and I been together for the past 8 years (2 and a half of which was long distance). We only got engaged last year. We often spoke about mariage before getting engaged but I could tell from the way he spoke, he was putting it off cos he couldn’t afford an expensive weding ring, as it seemed he thought all women, including me, wanted an expensive ring. When we met he was a Marine and spoilt me. On two occasions he bought me diamond rings but it was too early in the relaionship to propose. When he left the marines, he started studying for an Art degree and completed recently so no steady income yet. But I never cared about the ring. In fact, I wouldn’t have minded if he made me a ring using his artistic skills. At the end of the day, it’s about getting engaged. I really didn;t care for an expensive ring. In the end, he just proposed without a ring, and later bought an inexpensive ring that has a diamond looking stone on it (it’s called something, just can’t remember cos it’s so insignificant to me). 

The only time I started getting conscious of the ring was when virtually every woman I told about engagement, asked to see “the ring”! Is that really all that matters? Hw about asking how and when he proposed and if we need any help with the wedding etc. A friend of mine refused to get engaged until her Boyfriend bought her the ring she wanted, which was way in the thousands! I couldn’t believe it. 


Post # 9
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

My ring is a third of a carat, and it’s exactly what I wanted. It’s about half the price of rings my friend’s have, which I would consider a good thing. Other people’s rings are really pretty, but I can honestly say that I would never want anything above a half a carat. 

Post # 10
32 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

I love the ring my Fiance got me!   Its 4 1/4 princess cut diamonds with a halo and micropave split shank.  He got it because he hates they way one big solitare looks and though the one he picked out was more “me”.  All the diamonds are amazing quality and I love the thought he put into picking it out.  he could have gotten a 1 carrat solitare for the same price but he wanted something he doesn’t see every day.  We have bigger piorities in our life than a ring, like buying a house and having a large emergency fund so we can have a baby.  Its not about the size or the price of the ring its about the thought put into buying it.  His dad hand made his moms wedding ring.  Its 2 quarters melted down so it cost him 50 cents.  They have been married for 30 years!

Post # 11
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Ronneykay: Helllll yeah! I agree with you wholeheartedly. At the end of the day, a ring is just a peice of metal with a gem on it. 

Post # 12
4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

This is my third marriage and hubby’s first. He was 48 when we got engaged, and I was 44…  For my first two marriages, I had rings that were small, but I can’t say I was proud of them, but looking back, I think it was more about the fact that I was not marrying the right men at the time.  If I had found Darling Husband 27 years ago when I first got married, I can guarantee, I would have rocked whatever he put on my finger and been tremendously proud. 

I have to say… I’m a little jealous, but also very happy to hear about how proud you are of your ring and of the longevity of your marriage!

Post # 13
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I work with a four people that got engaged between thanksgiving and christmas … they have HUGE rings, one of them has even been upgraded since to a bigger better, and at st. Pats, when i got engaged, and came into work with mine …. i got the oh.. well isn’t that … pretty ….it’s so .. nice. 


… but driving home the other day, top down the light hit my ring and it was sooo pretty.  My diamond is something I inherited from a not so nice grandmother, but he picked the setting, he spent so much time and worried so much that i would like what he came up wiith.  I just love it, because he put it all together, i would love anything he gave me!


@Ronneykay: haha LOVE the MOSH PIT!!!

Post # 14
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I never actually had an e-ring. Fiance got me a .25 white gold promise ring 3 years ago.Even though a stone fell out I still rock it proudly : ) I never felt bad I have cherished it since the day he put it on my finger. Even though it never bothered me it bothered him so for my wedding band I got upgraded to  2.15 carat stunner

Post # 15
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had a moment yesterday about my modest ring. I’m staging a house and I was over there with my client and her friend. As we were chatting I noticed that both of them had ginormous ROCKS on their fingers. Just huge. My half-carat sapphire was the red-headed stepchild all of a sudden. Lol But I love my ring so much, it’s really unique and it’s not sold in any jewelry store here in the States. It’s made in Galway, Ireland and because it’s a Claddagh it’s got very special meaning:)

Post # 16
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@tksjewelry: pictures!!


we need pictures of these rings! they sound amazing !!!

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