(Closed) your baby shower – surprise or help plan?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MamaHusky3:  Hmm… I don’t know. I guess I’m traditional in that I feel like showers are thrown for you… it does seem a little strange to me when the honoree is very involved in the planning, though I know there are many people who do this. I think it would be fine to offer your assistance (in terms of help with projects and/or the financial aspect), but if they say no, I’d step back and enjoy being surprised.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m helping in a limited capactiy. I’m picking out the decorations and buying them (because I wanted a specific theme that I fell in love with), but that’s about it. My two closest friends who are hosting are doing the rest. Menu, setting up, invites, etc. I think if you want to help, go for it!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m helping my mom picking out the menu and finding some things needed for the favors. She worked with me on setting the date also b/c there was just no way I could be surprised. I know it’s happening and I need to physically get myself there. 🙂 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MamaHusky3:  I’m helping plan my shower. I look at it like this: This party is for my BABY, not me exactly. They are the one getting gifts, not me hahaha.

I am picking the location, the menu, the invites, the cake, and the guests.

Though part of the reason I am taking over so much is because my bridal shower was a big disappointment for me (I would never tell my friends though) and I want my first, and by etiquette standards, only baby shower to be a great one.

Post # 7
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know but am not doing anything to help. I will just be showing up that day. The only thing I picked was the cake flavor. My mother has told me everything she is doing and has run ideas by me, but it’s pretty much in her hands. This is how I was for my wedding shower too.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I helped plan & excute my baby shower with my Mom & sister. My sister threw my bridal shower and was stressed/anxious during the whole thing, so I didn’t want a repeat of that. I asked them to just keep me in the loop when they were planning & threw out ideas of things I’d like (i.e. no “games”, but I liked the idea of a Make-a-Onesie stationg). My mom asked me what kind of food I wanted & I did a lot of the shopping (decorations, etc) since I wasn’t working. It worked out great for all of us!

@LuvMySailor:  I felt the same way! I’m actually not really doing much to deserve a party in my honor – the baby & biology are doing all the work! Plus, all the presents are for the baby, so I didn’t feel weird hosting “my” party. It seemed like the same things I’d be doing for his 1st Birthday party.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

you could offer to help, but if they say no thanks, i would respect that.

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