- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Bees, I’d like to know if you think this is a weird or fun idea. Sorry this is kind of long but I had to give you the necessary info!
My FI and I have been taking private dance lessons (east and west coast swing and blues) since January – not solely for our wedding but that was the motivation to start. We’ve also taken some group lessons from our instructor and we socialize with him at dances and have hung out with him on a couple of other occasions. We both like him and at this point I consider him a friend but with the obvious caveat that we pay him to provide a service. I wouldn’t normally have thought to invite him to our wedding because it’s out of state (in New Orleans) and just family and close friends – probably 75-ish guests.
He mentioned recently that he’d be willing to come to our wedding and do a little lesson at either the welcome dinner or the reception to show guests a few dance steps, and we replied that that would be fun but we didn’t know that we could afford it (ie, to fly him there and put him up), and he implied that he wouldn’t charge us or wouldn’t charge us much because it was “us” and because he loves New Orleans (it was vaguely worded and we didn’t ask for more details, just said we’d think about it).
Before I follow up I’m looking for opinions about having him there. I’m not sure whether I’d want him to do a lesson for guests because I don’t know whether they would enjoy that or if they would feel like we’re trying to dictate how they dance. Our band plays classic rock/blues/soul type music and you don’t really need to know special steps to dance to that, although people might enjoy learning some blues basics. But even if he didn’t do a lesson, I think it would be fun to have him at the reception because a) he’ll be on the dance floor all night, b) he’ll be able to dance with the women who like to dance but don’t have partners who like to dance – for instance one of my relatives is a fabulous west coast swing dancer who never has an adequate partner at functions, and c) I like dancing with him so it would be fun for me! My FI’s and my skills are quite mismatched at this point, so although I love dancing with FI, I can’t really “go to town” with him.
I hesitate because: he’s not family or a close friend so would kind of be an odd man out, wouldn’t know anyone besides us (although he’s very outgoing) and I wouldn’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable about there being a “pro” on the dance floor. So I ask you, what would you do?