(Closed) Your Engagement Ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We went into Jewelry shops together and we both looked at a bunch of different things we liked. He knew I only liked white gold and I hated princess cut and didn’t like plain bands or diamonds that were set high up. He also knew I really liked three stone.

Other than that we agreed that HE would pick the ring and I would trust his judgement. 

He did perfectly!



Post # 4
945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

First of all, Welcome to WeddingBee! πŸ™‚ 

Second, congrats on getting to this point in your relationship/life!

My then SO had been talking about what kind of engagement ring he wanted to get me. I’m a little picky, and so when he mentioned a solitare, I gently explained that it wasn’t really what I wanted. Now, don’t get me wrong! If he had surpised me with it out of the blue I would have graciously accepted and not said anything because solitares are beautiful! πŸ™‚

SO was a little hurt that I didn’t like his choice. He did allow me to show him things that I did like. The ring that I absolutely fell in love with is simple, and similar to a solitare so he liked it along with the little additions that made me love it. I had seen it online with him right next to me. Apparently the look of sheer joy on my face made him certain that anything he would have picked wouldn’t have been the same as this one. 

If he doesn’t bring it up, I think I would bring it up or drop big hints if you are a picky person. It will most likely save some regret/hurt feelings/etc if/when he proposes and you aren’t a big fan of what he picked. 


ETA: Forgot to add my sparkly πŸ™‚

Post # 5
1382 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Mine asked me to search for the setting I wanted and to show him pictures!  At one point, he even gave me his opinions too haha.!

Congrats!  So excited for you πŸ™‚

Post # 7
11343 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My now-DH knew that I was very picky about everything, so he had no desire to try to select my rings by himself.  We visited some jewelry stores together to eventually choose the semi-mount, loose diamond, and wedding band before he ever proposed. (He kept telling me it was going to happen, but both of us wanted the actual proposal — the when, the where and the how — to be a surprise for me.) Once he knew what I liked, the timing was up to him, and he went back to the jewelry store on his own timetable, without me, to conduct the actual business transaction.

Post # 10
9618 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I told him and showed him the exact ring I wanted, I tried it on with him there so he could be sure that’s the one he wanted to buy me πŸ™‚

Post # 11
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

He told me to look, I did and found the ring.  There was no other ring that would do but I let him start things off that way.

Post # 12
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I told him the three shapes i liked, the two shapes i hated, and the fact that i wanted a solitaire with some kind of diamond detail on the band. From there he picked it out on his own.

Post # 14
3134 posts
Sugar bee

I dropped some hints, but we ended up searching for a setting together (family center stone). I chose what I wanted and we bought it together. I think it could be fun for the man to pick out the ring and it be a total surprise, but I didn’t want it that way. He knows me well, but I don’t want to leave something like that completely up to him. Especially when I barely ever wear jewelry (no way for him to know my style). 

Post # 15
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, what I thought I wanted is not want I think I really wanted.

I told him what kind of stone I wanted and showed him the kind of setting. He bought the stone and had it set temporarily in a solitaire setting when he proposed.

He had picked out the setting but wanted me to confirm. It was a halo setting around a square (princess) diamond. After the proposal I went to check it out.

I ended up picking a channel set band with the diamond, but learning how much of my diamon is “wasted” in the depth of it makes me a little sad. Its a big diamond that doesnt look big. I wish I knew more about it when I chose it. 

However I love the shape and I love the setting.

Post # 16
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We originally planned that I would make a list of all the rings I liked from a bunch of ring stores online, and then he would pick one. But it turns out I was so picky I only found one I loved, so we got that one!

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