Post # 1
I saw a thread here on the bee that seemed to suggest that most bees’ FIs will not see the gown until the day-of.
Mine is almost certainly going to help pick mine out, because he’s got an artist’s eye and I really trust his opinion on what I wear. (His taste + my taste = magic, IMO). I know, a lot of guys don’t necessarily care about women’s clothing very much, but I think it’s an inaccurate stereotype to say that the vast majority of guys have no opinion on it whatsoever. Many men are style-aware, too.
My question is: How did you know how to find a dress he would love to see you in for your wedding? (Or, was this something you weren’t concerned about?)
I ask because, while my FI would marry me if I showed up in a paper bag, he’s already vetoed something I never would have expected him to veto (translucent lace sleeves). By “veto,” I mean he laughed and cringed and said, “Oh god, please don’t wear something like that!” …I had no idea he felt that way about translucent lace sleeves, as I don’t. Then again, I’m not passionately for them either… I was just considering them before, but now that I know how much he hates that look, I won’t be choosing it. I’m glad I know this!
Did you go over general design elements with your FI to get an idea of his opinion? Or did you really pick one with no input from him? I guess this is kind of like when guys pick the engagement ring!
Post # 3
I just showed my FI some random pics to see what he likes – he just wants me in something that shows my arse off! Unfortunately for him I’ve already bought an aline dress. On the plus side he hates anything overly poofy or froufrou and my dress is very simple, which I think he’ll like.
He did just win some major brownie points by telling me that i’ll look beautiful in anything and to get the dress I love. Knew i was marrying him for a reason!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
My FH said very clearly he didn’t want to know anything about the dress AT ALL. But we’ve browsed through stuff on weddingbee and he’s said what he likes and what he doesn’t.
Post # 5
My FI went dress shopping with me when I bought dress 3, when I bought THE dress (dress 4) he wasnt there but has seen photos of me in it
Post # 6
I showed him probably half a million photos. On top of that I incidentally ended up buying two dresses. (Not on purpose it just happened that way… they were both super inexpensive and I’m indecisive.) So he has no idea…. but among the stock photos he’s seen are both of them, which he liked. But he doesn’t know that and he doesn’t know which two I bought or which one I will wear! Hehehe!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
We sat at the computer as I flipped through a million dresses to get his opinion. I think he already knew I didn’t want a strapless gown, and I think he was digging the “sweetheart with some sort of straps” look I was aiming for. I learned that he really liked ruched satin, and so do I, but I ended up with a lace with small pearls and crystals in it. He loved some lace dresses and hated others, and I couldn’t really nail down what he did/didn’t like… So that was a gamble… But of course like a good little groom he said to pick whatever I feel pretty in!
Post # 8
I showed him some dresses i liked, then had him point out things he preferred in dresses. After that i asked him to look up diffferent styles amd decide what he liked best. My budget didnt allow me to get what i reallllly wanted but i found one i loved and it fits with what he liked in dresses.
It was important to me that the dress be something he would want to see his future wife wearing the day of the wedding and thanks to his suggestions i know he will love it. Although, truth be told i am sure he would like anything i would wear haha :)!
Post # 9
FI has no clue what I’m wearing on our day. I can’t wait to see his expression:) After almost nine years of dating..I’d like there to be some element of surprise.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
you know thiis thread just made me feel guilty about not really asking my FI. So I just proceeded to ask him and got a load of “i dunnos” and then he fell asleep
Post # 11
I showed him a few pulled out from a magazine…either ones I was serious about or ones I absolutely wouldn’t be getting anyway. I showed him a picture of me in one that I nixed and he did say he didn’t like it (mermaid style, very form fitting). My dress is a tad more traditional so I don’t think I will have any problems. At the same time, me in every day hair and makeup and a wedding dress is totally different from me in my dress on my wedding day. At that point I don’t think he will care at all.
Post # 12
He didnt have much input but I know he sees me on here and will see a dress and say, “Please don’t wear that…”
Post # 13
I didn’t bother showing him dresses I liked until I found mine. His opinion matters to me but, he said all along that all that matters is that I’m happy and if its the one I want its the one I shall get.
Although since I got it I have showed him stock photos whilst flicking through just to see what he thinks but, he won’t really say much about dresses in general lol.
Post # 14
My FI is pretty traditional when it comes to wedding things. He told me (well showed me since he doesn’t know the technical terms) he likes the traditional A-line silhouette (which is perfect because that’s what I liked best on my body) and he specifically stated he doesn’t like ruffles…they remind him of torn paper. Of course I purchased a dress with a textured skirt (has petal like texture) and I freaked for a minute remembering he hates ruffles but I showed him a dress with a similar texture and he said he liked it, so I’m good to go 🙂
Post # 15
He LOVED drop waist tafetta ballgowns, but I was looking for an all-lace, natural waist ballgown or mermaid.
Of course, MY dress I tried on as a joke (it was the heaviest dress in the store at 53lbs) is a drop waist tafetta ballgown. So I know he’ll love it!
Post # 16
Before I went dress shopping I asked him if there was anything he wanted or did not want on my dress. He said he didn’t care and to get whatever I want, I would look great in whatever I wear. He knows nothing about the dress other than it’s white. I am even keeping it at his moms house so he’s not tempted to sneak a peek.