Post # 1
Curious, does it bother you when you think about your fi being intimate with another woman, even though it was before you?
Me& fi have been open about our sexual past but ugh when I think about him having sex with other women especially ones that I know it just makes my skin crawl & if I really think about it I get myself upset 🙁 I just hate it. But I would never tell him this. I think I feel this way bc I was only with one other person before him & he was with a few people before me.
Post # 3
@MissSweetiepie: It doesn’t disgust me, but I don’t care to think about it. So I just don’t. He did, up until last year, work closely with a girl he had previously had sex with less than a year before he met me. When I found out I was a little annoyed that he never mentioned it. I had met her and even though she knew who I was and she knew what my bf’s junk felt like, I had no idea. So that pretty much sucked and I felt kinda like he made me look stupid. Here I am being all nice and friendly to this girl who knows things about my man that I don’t. She doesn’t work there anymore, so it’s water under the bridge at this point.
Post # 4
To be honest, it doesn’t bother me at all. It’s not something I dwell on but when I do think about, I’m pretty apathetic towards it – just like I am with my own sexual past. It’s like a different lifetime and as long as it doesn’t intrude in our current relationship, then it’s all good.
Post # 5
I think it bothers me because I’m a virgin and want to stay that way until we are married. he is not. It kills me to think about it honestly but I try to keep in mind it was before he knew me.
Post # 6
Well FI’s never had sex with another woman and I have never had sex with another man, but he has performed and received oral sex, and handjobs. I try not to think about that.
Post # 7
It doesn’t bother me at all but then I am very very involved with it. We were FWB for a long time before we got together and actually the other people he has been with (bar a couple) I have been there (I’m talking full sex here)
Still wouldn’t bother me if I wasn’t the past sex life.
Post # 8
@MissSweetiepie: We can talk openly about it, but honestly I’d rather not think about him with other women. When we talk about exes and such I try not to really think about the sexual aspect, although he’s more experienced than me in that arena so sometimes things he’s done with other girls comes up. Yuck.
Post # 9
When we first got together it didnt bother me, because it was the past. But we broke up and got back together and there were girls between me. Im not too fond of that.
Post # 10
It doesn’t worry me to be honest. It’s in the past and if he still wanted to be with the others he would be. If it worries you I would try not to think about it.
Post # 11
Just pointing out, you don’t really have a category in your poll for people whose FI was a virgin when they met.
Post # 12
FI and I started dating at 15. He literally had no sex life before me 😛
If he had though I don’t think it would necessarily bother me, but I certainly would not want to think about it. I’m sure your FI doesn’t like the thought of you with another man, either. That is why I could never have a threesome. Having the actual real image of my FI having sex with another woman is not something I want burned into my brain. No, no, no.
Post # 13
It isn’t something I spend time thinking about, but it doesn’t bother me. We both have a past, in our case I have more of a past in that sense than him. I would feel a little hypocritical being disgusted by it, I guess.
Post # 14
Prior experience is only a plus in my book.
Post # 15
It doesn’t bother me in the slightest – we both had full, varied sex lives before we met, and if he still wanted to sleep with a variety of people then he would, but he’s happy with our love life.
I do get a little jealous thinking about people that he’s been in love with before me, but then I just remind myself that I’m the one he’s with – if he didn’t love me then we wouldn’t be together.
Post # 16
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
@MissSweetiepie: Yep we are sort of open with our sexual history. Mine is limited…I only had one sexual partner/boyfriend before him. He of course had multiple partners. I don’t know exactly how many but I do know it was way more than me. And the fact that I see one of them (his child’s mother) it makes me sick thinking about it.