Post # 1
HOT! Why do I keep hearing this? Or, why does it bug me that I keep hearing this?
At first it was some of my girlfriends, then it became some of my distant facebook friends who thought it appropriate to drop me a line about it, and now even my mom’s friends (they’re over 50 :|)! This just makes me uncomfortable. I was never into my husband’s physical type – but the more I got to know him the more attracted I felt. I do admit it is flattering, but still, I don’t go telling any women they have hot husbands!
Do women approach you and tell you these things about your DH? Does it make you uncomfortable or flattered?
Post # 3
Even though we’re not married quite yet (less than a month to go – woot!!) I hear this about my FI all the time. Last weekend at a social event I left his side for about five minutes and when I returned two women were hanging all over him! Well, one of them was his cousin, but whatever!! Haha! The other was her friend whom I’ve never met. I walked up and said, “Hey, ladies, quit flirting with my husband, I know he’s cute, but really!” It doesn’t really bother me too much, though.
I have to admit it is kinda weird, though. Like you, I never go around telling other women how “hot” their husband or FI is. What do they think we’re going to say? “Yeah, when I’m done with him you can have a go?” Or – “Thank you for pointing that out, I hadn’t noticed?” eyeroll.
Post # 4
It could always be worse….someone could be saying “Oh my goodness, look at the wildebeast she married!”
I see where everyone’s coming from tho. We know our husbands are hot, but it’s a little unnerving when other women hone in on it. No matter how secure we are in our relationships.
Post # 5
Yep, I hear it too about my Fiance. Especially since he has grown a beard. I heard it before, but now I hear it a LOT. Also before people told me he looks like Prince William, and now people say he looks like Ryan Gosling.
Weirdest time I heard it though was when his ex-gf (long time ago, they’re friends, she’s married) told me how hot he was looking these days. Totally inappropriate, haha. I just said ‘thanks! I know, I’m super lucky!’
ETA to say that I’m really super lucky not just because other people think he is good looking but because he is the best person I know and my rock. I would be incomplete without him. But I just didn’t know any other way to respond to her.
Post # 6
I’ve never had someone use the word “hot,” but I have had women say that my DH is good-looking. One, older family member said he is “gorgeous.” And, one very nice woman from our church recently described him as “eye candy.” However, all of these comments were made in a totally innocent and harmless manner, so I received them in a positive way.
Post # 7
@Sunfire: I totally feel you!
@Eight6Eleven: haha good point!! I better be thankful for these “compliments” then, huh?
@LilacViolet: awww… that’s very sweet! Double lucky when you get eye Candy + a dear heart
@Brielle: you need to help me and share what that positive way is… I never know what to say but “errr plz stop looking at my man!” lol, and when that would be too rude I completely glide over it..
Post # 8
@glitter86: Well, I think the difference is that the comments I was hearing were simply offering an appreciation for my husband’s overall attractiveness, and they all came from women whom I know would NEVER — in a MILLION years — actually flirt with or pursue my husband. In your case, however, I don’t know if you can be sure this is the case. You actually have women telling you that your husband is “hot,” and that word, to me, carries with it an innuendo of sexual attraction. I really don’t blame you one iota for being uncomfortable with that.
I think that all you can do when you hear those remarks is say something slightly shy, very polite, and yet a bit “fire-extinguishing” to cool their “heat” for your hubby’s “hotness”: “Aww, thank you SO much! I obviously find him to be extremely attractive, too! And I’m SO blessed that he ONLY has eyes for ME!” 🙂
Post # 9
Really?!? I think it’s a great compliment for both of you.
Can you explain why this bothers you? I just don’t get it.
Post # 10
I get this all the time. A family friend of ours in her 60s once told me, “If I wasn’t a lesbian, I’d try to bone your husband” I was like, uhhhh!
Post # 11
I know that whenever someone has complimented SO on his attractiveness I get uncomfortable…
On the flip side, SO thinks it’s a compliment towards HIM (*eyeroll*) whenever someone makes a comment (either to him or me) about my attractiveness, or if we’re out and he sees a guy checking me out, he says he takes it as a positive thing, like “hey, that guy caught himself a hottie” 😛
I don’t trust other women as a general rule, so needless to say, my opinion on the matter is different than his. I think it’s the hunter gene – “hey boys, look what I reeled in!” /sarcasm
Post # 12
i get your FI is so cute/and Funny or that I don’t know how lucky i am that i am with him. Like HEY he’s lucky too dammit lol
Post # 13
but when i get hit on he gets so offended, i think its hilarious