Post # 1
This is probably just a silly question of semantics, but I’m just wondering if anyone else out there feels the same as me:
I don’t consider my fiance my ‘best friend’. I see it over and over again, “I can’t wait to finally marry my best friend”, “Today is the day I marry my best friend!” etc. etc. etc… and I especially started to notice it while going through all the potential readings and ceremony scripts given to us by our officiant. I love my fiance, and he is a very important person in my life – probably THE most important person in my life, as I intend to live with him, share everything with him, and start a family with him. But – I have a best friend – my wonderful maid of honour! And so does he, his best man. Each of our best friends are people we have known wayyy longer than we have known each other (we’ve been together basically since the day we met, 3.5 years ago). My best friend knows me better than my fiance knows me, I share more personal secrets with her than I would (yet) with my fiance… and I talked to him about it (when we were choosing readings for our ceremony), and he feels the same way! We both just think that a romantic / marriage relationship is necessarily very different from a ‘best friends’ kind of relationship. Maybe it is because we were never friends before we were lovers? Anyways. Neither of us think this is weird, but we won’t be including any ‘marrying my best friend’ sort of stuff in our ceremony and we never refer to each other that way. I’m really looking forward to our relationship deepening and maturing throughout our marriage, but I just can’t see him as my “best friend” when I have a closer connection with my actual best friend, whom I have known for 13 years, who is exactly the same as me in so many weird ways, who can read my mind, and who I can tell anything to. My fiance and I are quite different in a lot of ways, though we share extremely similar life goals. Our differences make our relationship fun! Just wondering if anyone else out there gets what I mean on this!
Post # 3
I do but we were good friends for many years before we started dating. We both also have best friends same sex friends that are in our lives but we both consider eachother best friends.
Post # 4
I would say… no. I mean, he is one of my best friends of course. But in terms of pure friendship? No.
Post # 5
100% he is my best friend
Post # 6
my fiance is hands-down the best friend i’ve ever had.
Post # 7
My SO and I also have platonic best friends, but honestly? He is my best friend and I’m his, we have a great friendship as well as a great romantic relationship. I know this doesn’t happen/work for everyone, and it’s not something we planned on. It just happened. I have more fun and feel more comfortable with him than literally anyone else in my life.
Post # 8
Total, absoloute best friend…we both say that all the time. We were always close freinds though, just some magic spark there that our brains just connect
Post # 9
He is my best friend and the only person i can be completed honest with.
I have friends and i love them dearly, and we connect on a different level than me and my fiance for obvious reasons.
But my fiance is the number one person, lover and friend in my life.
Post # 10
My boyfriend and I are the exact same way. We are not each other’s best friends, we are very close and know alot about each other, but a best friend is a different thing, a different catagory, different kind of relationship ha. He has known his best friend all their lives and its the same with my best friend. I have known her since pre-school. As far as secrets and stuff sometimes I wish my man and I were best friends and I tend to open up to my boyfriend easily wheras he doesn’t tell me anything. But, it just gets weird if signifigant other is your best friend, in my opinion, because if you lose them or break up or it doesn’t work out or something, you will lose your best friend, your confidante, your amigo.
I always wonder what happens to the ladies that are in a romantic relationship that claim that thair bf is the best friend when they break up do they stay friends or have they literally lost their best friend? Besides, I am happy that we have seperate best friends, I mean, who else are we going to talk to about each other when we piss each other off and need to vent haha.
Post # 11
without a doubt my best friend. If i couldnt tell him all my secrets, be completly open with him, have each other know the other inside and out i wouldnt marry him
Post # 12
DH is my best friend. We do all of the things I do with other friends plus more. I would rather do 99% of activities with him than with anyone else. We talk, we laugh, we have fun running errands. Occasionally we “date”, or cuddle while watching a movie, and of course we are intimate, but a lot of the time we just hang out and that makes me happy in and of itself.
Post # 13
@Livelifeveryday: We both have other friends that we can vent to about each other lol. But if we ended up breaking up? Yes, I would be absolutely devastated not only from the loss of our relationship/future but the loss of my best friend. That’s why *fingers crossed* everything will work out and we’ll be together for the rest of our lives.
Post # 14
I love my FI. He’s my biggest supporter and love of my life. We spend almost all of our free time together, but he’s not my best friend. I hold him above the title of “best friend.”
Post # 15
He’s one of them, absolutely, but the whole “omg yay I’m marrying my best friend!” thing kind of weirds me out. That’s not how I feel about it. He’s pretty awesome, but I also have a female best friend who is also totally my soul-mate and my person.