Your ideal length of engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What length of engagement is/was/would be ideal for you?
    Less than 3 months : (1 votes)
    1 %
    3-6 months : (7 votes)
    7 %
    7-12 months : (42 votes)
    45 %
    13-18 months : (33 votes)
    35 %
    19-24 months : (9 votes)
    10 %
    25+ months : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    744 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @christina-joy:  I voted 3-6 months because that is what I ended up with!  We are having a destination wedding in Vegas so I think its a lot easier to coordinate than if I were to plan a wedding in my hometown where all the vendors are all booked up!

    Post # 5
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Mine was originally really long… 20 months!

    But after three months of prices going through the roof and the budget inflating by 30%, we decided to half the guest list, quarter the budget, and get married a year early!

    So we planned our wedding in 5.5 months. It was perfect–No time to question our decisions or try to plan a wedding that could be in “Brides” (Which is great if you have the budget and the time! But we had neither, so no pressure!)

    That being said, my perfect engagement would have been 12 months (or maybe 13), and would have involved both sets of parents winning the lottery and going “Here! Have 100K for your wedding! And another 20K for your honeymoon!”

    Post # 6
    Member
    92 posts
    Worker bee

    Depends on where you are in life… and how old you are.  I’m on the younger side, so I don’t mind enjoying a longer engagement.  If I were older and wanting to start a family soon, I might opt for a shorter engagement.  I don’t want a HUGE over-the-top wedding, so planning in 3-6 months (if I had too) would be okay with me!

    Post # 8
    Member
    744 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @infinitykindaluv:  +1

    I wouldn’t call myself that “old” but I’ll be 28 and FI is 33 when we get married… and we are jumping on the babymaking train shortly thereafter!

    Post # 9
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think a year is good. It really doesn’t take longer than that to plan a wedding and I didn’t see anything “fun” about it. Not that it wasn’t fun but I didn’t want to be engaged for any longer than that. That’s what I like for myself. For others I don’t judge. I have some people around me that have been engaged for 5+ years and I haven’t seen any of them get married.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1929 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My engagement was 19 months long and I think it was a bit too long.  I would have wanted probably 12 months.

    Post # 11
    Member
    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Ours is just over two years, by choice. We wanted to have enough time to save up, enjoy being engaged, and plan the day without too much stress (financially and otherwise). It’s worked out quite well! 

    Post # 12
    Member
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Our engagement will be just about 10 months (1 month to go!) – which seemed like forever!  We were originally planning on having a 7-mos engagement, but it didn’t work out due to FSIL’s wedding that was supposed to be in Oct.

    I think had we gotten married in Oct or Nov, it would’ve been perfect.

    Our wedding is small and intimate, so we could’ve definitely planned it in 7 mos – especially since most part of our 10-mos engagement, we sat around twidling our thumbs.  Haha. 🙂

    Post # 13
    Member
    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @christina-joy:  Six months would be ideal but nine and a half (what we are actually doing) isn’t bad either haha. I think if we were doing a summer wedding where things book up faster I would say a year to make sure we were getting the vendors we want but practically everything was still available when we started book 9 months out and I think 6 months would leave less time for stress and indecisiveness and I am super impatient hahaha 

    Post # 14
    Member
    895 posts
    Busy bee

    Our engagement was about 18 months long, I’m getting married next week. That is my only regret, it was waaaayyyy tooo long. And I’m a planner too, DIYed all my centerpieces, it was still too long. I wish our engagement had been closer to a year.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2762 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I chose 13/18 as my ideal. I don’t want to rush and/or be stressed out during the planning process. I want to be able to enjoy that time because it’s only going to happen once. I  will be engaged for exactly 18 months on my wedding day. We got engaged in November and I wanted to wait until the weather was nicer, so we chose May. So it was either get married in 6 months or 18 months…I chose the latter.

    Post # 16
    Member
    602 posts
    Busy bee

    I want a year and a half, and that’s just about what it’s going to be. I change my mind a lot, so I need that time to back and forth on decisions so that I’ll be confident that I like what I choose. Also, I’m a procrastinator, so the extra length helps.

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