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she lost weight because she's grieving... and you're losing weight to look good for your happy wedding. I wouldn't envy her... also she's older, so there's not as many years left for her to look good!
anyway, congrats on your weight loss. 30 pounds is quite an achievement!
Did you lose weight for yourself, or so other people would notice and make comments?
First off, congrats on your weight loss. But you yourself said you think your mom lost too much weight. Based off other people's comments ("your mom is so tiny"), it seems like everyone else agrees with you. They're not saying your mom looks great, they're saying she looks too small. I think they're just worried about her.
Also, I guess I'm in the minority that I don't really comment to people on weight loss, unless they are really close to me. People are making comments to you about your mothers weight loss. Maybe they're making comments to other people about yours.
Congrats on your weight loss! I'm wondering if maybe they're commenting about her weight loss out of concern and not recognition, you know? Like maybe they're mentioning it because they're trying to probe to see if she's ok healthwise?
I'm sure people have noticed your weight loss, too - try not to worry about it too much. Remember that it's sweater weather and it can be harder to tell over the winter, too!
@ViaMinorViator: I lost weight for myself and my health because I was overweight. It wasn't for people to comment.
@patchy: Thanks. It took me a while to lose the weight, but I am glad I stuck with it.
umm perhaps I'm missing the context, that may have not been positive have multiple people saying she is Tiny.
Have these people seen you while you were losing weight? I know some people who are losing weight and honestly, I can't really tell too much because I see them every week so it's not a dramatic change. Your friends might not be saying that she is tiny because they think she looks good, they might be worried about her health and not be sure how to say it.
@SuperKate: Thanks. Maybe you're right about them thinking she's too small. I don't know. They don't say it though, so who knows.
@Juliepants: Sweater weather...Funny! I'm not worried about it. I just always get told things about my mom's weight.
@MissAsB: Yes, I have seen them throughout the weightloss. It's taken me over a year and a half to lose the weight, so maybe they haven't really noticed since it's been gradual.
@TwoCityBride: Yeah, maybe you're right that they might be concerned. I'm not sure.
Have they said this to her? Lots of people won't comment to others directly about their weight in fear of it being uncomfortable, and rightly so. They might be talking about your weight loss to each other and you just don't know about it.
ps: I also lost a lot of weight a couple of years ago, a lot of people in my life never ever metioned a thing to me, others went on and on about it. I also talked to ladies who lost a lot of weight and most us agreed sometimes it went to our heads to have people constantly gushing over us all time. I think neither of it is good, because it made me feel like umm did I really look that bad! Focus on yourself and don't fall into the trap of needing other people to validate what you have achieved.
I also wouldn't be surprised if most of those people never said anything to your Mom's face about her being tiny.
Perhaps these people are worried about your mom? Saying someones tiny isnt always ment as a compliment. From my experience, sometimes people dont always say something because they are worried they might get a "No i didnt! what should i loose weight? Are you saying im fat?" I lost 30lbs and saw some people I hadnt seen in years and no one said anything.
@MidwestBride2012: They have. The other night we were at dinner and someone said to her "Girl, you look tiny."
@TwoCityBride: Lots of people have mentioned her weight to her. Just the other night my aunt said something about it. Thanks for the advice. The comments have been happening a lot recently, so I guess that's why it's started to bother me. I think I'm just going to ignore it and move on. I'm probably being too sensitive about it anyway.
@TwoCityBride: I agree with this, they may have been saying it out of concern for her health. It's definitely awkward for people to bring up someone's weight loss, because they may be afraid to offend you. Congrats on your weight loss!
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My stepdad passed away 3 years ago, and since then my mom has lost about 40 pounds. I think she's a little too skinny. She makes comments if she gains a few pounds, but I try not to say too much to her about it.
Well, I've been trying to lose weight, and I've lost 30 pounds. I was 158 and now I'm 128. My goal has always been 120, but right now I'm stuck, which is ok because I'm still proud of my weight loss.
I had my shower a couple weeks ago, and everyone I have seen since then tells me "Your mom is so tiny." I don't understand how they don't recognize that I have lost 30 pounds. It hurts, but I try to let it go. She's lost 10 pounds more than me, but they only comment on her weight loss or if they say something about mine, they'll just say "You've lost weight too."
Has this happened to anyone else?