Post # 1
Bees, has anyone else been with a former partner that was not necessarily a better lover than your SO, (because love makes everything better) but the sex was just, for lack of a better word, more intense? By intense, I’m talking like full body, almost passed out from all the multiple “Os”, post sex aftershock….intense 🙂
What made it more intense?
Would you be honest with him about it if the subject came up? And do you sometimes reminisce about it?
Post # 3
Well I haven’t personally experienced this, as my Fiance is without any doubt the best sex I’ve ever had.
I’d suggest that you don’t tell your husband about this though. It will probably upset him. If my Fiance told me something like that, I don’t think I’d be able to forget about it.
IMO, it’s also not appropriate to fantasise about exes when you’re married. I think it’s better to concentrate on ways to improve your sex life with your husband 😉
Post # 4
@MaryKay14: you don’t have to be so judgemental you know.
Post # 5
@PenguinLove: Oh, ok then. I will change my advice to:
You should definitely be honest with your husband about this and tell him that you had much more intense and amazing sex with an ex than you’ve ever had with him. Your relationship and your sex life will really improve because of your honesty.
Post # 7
@MaryKay14: haha great advice!
Post # 8
i’ve talked to my Fiance about my past experiences. it’s definitely the best with him but he loves hearing about my sex stories before I met him 😉 lol
Post # 9
My most intense session was actually with my Darling Husband when we were kids (in high school). Maybe about … 8 or 9 years ago?
He made me climax like 9 times in a row. I was SO weak after that I really could not stand up. I remember being so flabbergasted at WHY my body would NOT get up. I had to lay in the bed for hours.
But it’s never happened again since LOL
Post # 10
Without a doubt my FH is an amazing lover. We have a fantastic chemistry in the bedroom. We have mind blowing moments often.
However, i can remember 2 different occasions with 2 other ex’s that were mind blowing.
However, i never think about them. Only reason why im thinking about it now is cause of the question. ( i feel guilty even talking about it!! lol)
Post # 11
Oh brother this got off to a way too serious start!
While my Darling Husband is amazing it is amazing because we love and lust for each other. That is totally different from a balls out crazy intense lust only night which typically is short lived and not relationship material (at least in my experience).
Yes, there was one person that I had ridiculous sexual chemistry with and seriously we could think of or do nothing more than have sex with the occasional conversation thrown in. Any “date” that would begin with the idea of having dinner or seeing a movie quickly changed to sex. Would I want that forever, absolutely not but it was it was awesome, intense and ridiculous while it lasted.
Post # 12
@Treejewel19: I know what you mean! 😉 lol
Post # 13
@Treejewel19: Exactly what I’m talking about. We weren’t compatable in any other way either but sexually. I actually think we used each other for sex. But, there were two things that made it ridiculous sex, the chemistry/passion, and his package. Hate to say that, but the extra size just hits all the right spots, nothing really like it…
I am debating on telling my Darling Husband. He has sort of asked, but I changed the subject.
Were you honest about it with your DH? Did it cause any issues?
Post # 14
If we’re just talking sex for sex sake, I’m not ashamed to admit that I have had this experience. The guy, Mr. X, was a real a$$hole, but OMG he would leave me satisfied for a week. As good as my SO is, to this day, I haven’t been with anyone the comes close to Mr. X. He had the rare combination of passion, endurance, ability and as you mentioned he was quite blessed in the package department.
I have actually talked to my SO about it. We are very open and he wants to please me in every way. So, after he asked me a few times, I did tell him the truth. I told him that he is the best because I love him, but if we’re just talking the physical part, there was a guy that I was very sexually compatiable with and that guy was probably “the best” at just the physical act only. I was also honest with him when he asked about Mr. X’s size. I did tell him the truth that Mr. X was quite a bit larger, or more endowed than my SO. My SO didn’t seem to surprised and it didn’t seem to bother him. Its actually made him work even hard to become a better lover with me.
Post # 15
Oh yes. I have already had sex where my eyes literally roll back into my head – G-spot, squirting, multiple orgasms, the whole nine yards. Very intense chemistry between us. The man could literally kiss me to orgasm!
Unfortunaely the guy was an asshole in many other areas of life and that soon overshadowed the great sex. It was a great relief to get that guy out of my life!
Post # 16
Ditto. I have been with 2 guys where the sex was more intese than with my Fiance. The guys weren’t pricks or anything but the relationships just didn’t work out. I did continue to sleep with one of them, kind of like a booty call, for a while after we split. I am actually guilty of cheating on a ex-boyfriend or two with this one guy. (Never cheated on my Fiance, just an ex).
Anyhow, when I was cheating on that ex-boyfriend, you do notice differences a lot more because you’re basically with two guys in the same day, er night. (I know, I was naughty). I think the ex was about 5″ and thin and the booty call was about 8″ and kinda girthy :-). I will say in that situation the size difference becomes way more pronounced and you really do get an appreciation for how much of a difference it really does make. It was like “oh this feels good” to “OMG! I didn’t know those spots even existed!!!”
Actually thinking about it now and can’t wait until my Fiance gets here 🙂