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I'd never even heard of it until I joined the bee, so I know I wouldn't do one myself, but if it isn't strange where you are from then *maybe.* I think I would find it awkward even if it was "the norm."
It's common where I'm from too, but since we both have massive families it is just not logical. We'd be doing nothing but slow dancing with other people all night long.
Of course, it's up to you and your FI what you would like to do. I've seen it done plenty of times, so you wouldn't be out of line!
Personally not a huge fan of them, but there are plenty of people that are for various and sweet reasons. I would talk to your FH and see if the family dynamics is open to it, if so, then go for it.
It's common here too, but I am not a fan. We vetoed that one real quick.
I think if it is relatively common or if you think your friends/family would be comfortable then it is a cute idea. I think they sound fun but my FI would never go for it lol. Besides, I don't think I would be comfortable with it, I don't like much attention haha
Haha I had never heard of this (dont go to many weddings) until my FI told me his mom wanted me to do one. We haven't set a date, picked a venue, etc. And she's already told him I have to do the money dance lol. Apparently it's huge in his family, people will be expecting it. I still haven't decided how I feel!
Do whatever you are comfortable with! I had also never heard of them until joining WB. I think even if I had known about it I wouldnt have done it but if thats what you are used to and want to do then do it!
It's very common where I come from. I don't think twice when I see it and usually participte.
Depends on what your guests are used to. I personally have never seen a live dollar dance, nor do I know anyone who has. But its okay in your circles then do it.
Depends on what your guests are used to. I personally have never seen a live dollar dance, nor do I know anyone who has. But if its okay in your circles then do it.
This is the urban myth of weddings. Everyone I know has been to a wedding where they have done this and everyone makes fun of it. It's terribly tacky. I believe it's more popular in states where there isn't an open bar or a bar with a running tab that the bride and groom pick up after the wedding.
My family really enjoys it. I'm not sure if we'll do it because I don't know how FI's family would feel about it. We might do it anyway. I really don't think they're as big of a deal as people seem to think, though. They usually take five minutes or at tops, two songs. People who want to participate do, and those that don't still mingle and/or eat.
I think I pretty much agree ( I quickly read through the posts), if it is common, comfortable, or something you would like to do. I would say do it. From where I am from it would be unusual not to do it. I don't think I have ever been to a wedding here where they havent' done it and that is including recently.
Love them! Ever wedding I have been to has done one, so I am definitely doing one. It's one way to interact with all your guests and have a fun competition against your husband.
I’m not a fan but I know they’re common in certain areas/circles. I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking my guests to pay money to dance with me for like 30 seconds, especially now-a-days when people hardly ever carry cash. My aunt and uncle had one at their wedding 17 years ago and people didn’t seem to mind it. They made quite a bit of money too.
ETA: Funny story about my aunt and uncles dollar dance… I was like 8 years old at their wedding so I asked my grandmother for money for the dollar dance. She gave me a $100 bill with the intention of me paying $50 to dance with my aunt and $50 to dance with my uncle. F*ck that! I gave my uncle the $100 and made him make change! He didn’t have enough for the full $99 so I settled for what he had. I ended up making like $75!
I think it depends on what your guests may be thinking about it/expecting it/excited for it. I know my family's side doesn't do them too often, but in Mr.NDs (enormous) extended family, it's a must. Some people think it's *tacky* (I don't), but some circles and cultures expect it and some are excited for it, and I do know some of the older folks love it as a nice way to get a little personal time with the couple.
I'd say that if you're comfortable with it, then just gauge where you think your guests stand on the idea.
My cousin just did this at her wedding and once the dance was over, the dj made an annoucement that the money was being donated to a charity - same one where they made a donation instead of favors.
The dollar dance has been a part of every wedding that I've ever been to, and I think they're great fun! My family does a polka instead of a slow dance, and everyone who dances with the bride gets a shot at the end (whiskey for the guys, peach schnapps for the girls). I think my extended family would disown me if we didn't do a dollar dance.
I can see how it would be awkward and uncomfortable if your families aren't familiar with it, though.
I think it's a cultural thing, and it's not normal in my culture. While I wouldn't do it, I don't look down on people who do b/c I know different things are normal for different people.
my personal opinion is that they are tacky and awkward. however i have only ever watched them happen, i did not have one myself.
Its very common where I'm from and almost expected. My dad is always sure to have some extra cash on hand when we go to weddings. My FMIL actually already purchased me a Money Dance Bag. (Kind of funny, she got it with my 'new' initials on it. EEEK :)
People came up to us, asking if we were going to have one. I was against it during planning, but at the wedding, thought it would be a fun way to dance with guests. I wanted to do one spur of the moment, but DH thought I was crazy and veto'd it.
I figure - if you want to do it and people don't want to participate it in, they don't have to!
If it's commonplace then go ahead and do it. Out of a dozen or so weddings I have only seen it done once. At the time I had no idea what it was. When I heard it was part of their heritage (I was told Polish) it all made sense.
Just about every wedding I have been to, has one. I do think it is cultural. With that said I refuse to have people pin money to me (especially my dress). I believe it has nothing to do with an open bar but it is to help the couple with money to start their new life together. If you dont mind all the pinning and dancing then you should have it.
I realize that some threads and topics need new threads because new people will have new opinions and new suggestions, but I honestly wish people would at least TRY to use the search feature on some topics before posting a new thread. This is definitely one that has been done to death, and both sides always say the same things.
Just throwing it out there in the hope that people will actually try it in the future.
I've never been to a wedding where they had a dollar dance, so I'm in the "I don't get it" camp. I know I wouldn't be comfortable with it, but if your family and friends are ok, then go for it. Honestly, my discomfort with it is because it feels like panhandling to me, I'm sorry to say.
I don't get why so many see it as "begging for money" which I've seen people say in so many other threads about this....It'S called A DOLLAR DANCE....As far as my understanding and what my family has told me is that it cost A DOLLAR to dance with the bride or groom....no? One Dollar? Is that really "begging" for money? I think it probably originated as a fund for the new husband and wife so they could "make some cash" to start their new lives....(I don't know the history) but I think it's evolved into just a fun little way of dancing with your guests. I would hardly call it tacky or begging. Just my opinion. I say if you want it then do it, if someone thinks it's tacky then they don't have to give you a damn dollar to dance with you. : )
I'm with many of the PPs - if you're comfortable with it and you think your guests will understand it, go for it!
I've seen it done multiple times and the only time I thought it was tacky was at my cousin's wedding. She didn't have any dancing at all, but still had a dollar dance. Most people were too uncomfortable to truly dance with them since there was no alcohol and no previous "warm-up" dancing, so lots of the guests just walked up and handed them money. Awkward!
The first time I ever heard of one was at a mexican wedding I went to. I personally feel like it's tacky (sorry :/), but it's something they do in their culture I guess. I couldn't figure out why she wanted to ruin her beautiful dress or why she was charging people to dance with her. She seemed to really enjoy it though, so I'm sure they were completely happy they had a dollar dance and could care less what people thought about it.
I think they are fun. Its more about the dancing and less about the dollars lol. You dont have to pin the mony to your dress, you can have one of your BM hold a little bag for it. If you want it, its not like people are forced to participate so they can sit out if they want. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
But there are a million posts about this topic, if you search you will find a ton of different opinions.
It's a Cuban tradition so my FI wants to do it, and my mom actually suggested it although I didn't realize it was a tradition in our family so I think we're leaning toward doing it. It feels weird to me but hey, gotta give in sometimes to make others happy.
I say do what you want. Now a days weddings are "do as YOU please" with some tradition thrown in. I did the Apron Dance which is the same as what you call the Dollar Dance. My Grandmom wore an apron and the guests placed whatever amount they wanted in the apron to have a dance with me. My family wasn't custom to it and thought it was a lot of fun. I had a line around the dance floor of people wanting to dance with me. I think they thought it was funny watching me being spun around like crazy. All I could do was laugh hysterically. The DJ made it more fun by changing the speed of the music so I went from a slow song to fast without knowing what song was coming. We even had the groom involved. I found in my research that the Apron Dance was a way of giving money to the couple to start their new lives together. Personally I dont see it as a way of begging for money. Its simply a fun way of getting the crowd up to dance and a way for the bride and groom to interact with their guests. As for the person (Amarylls) who commented about you "repeating" a repeat thread/post she needs to keep that to herself. If you are a new bride or have a question, you have the right to ask. After all..... that is the purpose of this website. You asked a great question and as a newbee myself to this whole posting blogging etc. I will ask any question I choose. Who has time to "research" what others posted? We are busy brides. What a way to take the fun out of it. So, Peachbaby.... good luck in whatever you decide... and have fun... its YOUR wedding... who cares what others think.
We have a variation of the dollar dance type event in our family/area. If the younger sibling in a family gets married before the older once, the eldest has to put on this stupid knee high socks with bells on them and dance around while people throw money at him/her (sometimes the dance is performed in a wash basin). The sibling then donates the money to the bride and groom. It's an odd tradition and I've bugged my sister about it but she refuses to do it. I wouldn't do it at my reception though, maybe at a family party prior to the wedding but I wouldn't make her do it in her dress and stuff. I've seen it done many times though and it's a good laugh for everyone.
It is common where I come from as well, but we will not be doing one. I just don't really like the thought of it overall, but I have been to a ton of weddings where they did it. Do whatever you feel comfortable with - it is YOUR day!
Its common around here too. The one reason I think that its good (besides the fact that you do get money). Is that it gives people a chance to talk to you that otherwise might not have gotten a chance to because of other people or because you have been to busy. But I still say its your wedding do what you want and don't worry about what people think
It's pretty common where I'm from, but we're not doing one. In addition to not being super comfortable with the concept or with having to dance with a bunch of different people awkwardly for a few moments each, I don't like how they break up the action on the dance floor. I want everyone to be out there dancing, not just me and FI and two other people!
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What do you think of this? Im debating if I should...where I come from its not unusual. At the same time, im not sure its appropriate.