Post # 1
Our wedding was wonderful and our honeymoon even better.
Everythign went as planned except for one thing.
One of the coworkers who declined the invitation to our wedding showed up to reception with a guest.
My bridesmaids were scrambling and thought they lost the escord card so they came to get me to see if i remembered where the person was sitting. Once i learned the name I was in shock that she came.
I mean, she was invited as she is part of our team. When my husband (eeek :)) then fiance, asked her about a reply as it was due, she told him that she was gonna go but now she wasn’t so sure. Following day i got a reply from her online (using the knot as we did set up an online reply as well) that she and her huband declined. Which is fine, I didn’t hold that against her, i understand not everyone can attend.
Then 2 days before the wedding she was emailing with me back and forth and even talked about the wedding. No where in the convo did she mention that she changed her mind.
Then my bridesmaids said that she was rude when they couldn’t find her name. My caterer managed to accomodate the extra two people (she came with her girlfriend and not her husband and they both were dressed pretty skimpy).
One of my guests had to have her 5 year old daughter sit on her lap due to this new sittign arrangement that was not planned by us.
My husband did make a comment to her at the dinner that he was surprised to se her there , in a nice way.
After dinner she and her friend vanished. We did recieve a card from her however with a 100$ in it.
I don’t know what to think of this.
Today is my first day back at work and i don’t see her as she is in another office, but my hubby will see her tomorrow. It’s just awkward and i can’t seam to think that she tried to crash my wedding.
Opinion on this please ?
Post # 3
@Lulume: Um, I think your husband’s co-worker is a bit rude, especially since she brought someone that wasn’t even invited. I think the only thing you can do is be courteous and thank her for the card, then don’t invite her to anything else lol.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Lulume: Maybe she pressed the wrong button on TK’s RSVP process? That’s the only thing that seems reasonable to me…. I don’t think she tried to crash seeing as she acted like she was supposed to be there and brought a present.
Post # 5
At least she had the politeness to offer 100$. I would not hold it against her. If it’s really the only problem you had at your wedding (and it sounds like you had a great time), I would let it go, really. I don’t think she did this to crash your wedding or in a mean-spirited way.
Caterers usually plan extra meals (mine will, and so would all of those we’ve met) for cases exactly like this, and that is included in the price we’ve already paid so there are no extra fees.
Post # 6
@Lulume: you say skimpy, is that something she dosent usually do? or does it look like she was heading to the night club and got lost? all i can say is atleast she gave some $$ i mean you had to pay for her and her “husband”(i mean girlfirneds) food so i guess that was nice… but kinda rude to split after eating did she say goodbye?
Post # 7
idk at my wedding there were def. ppl who came that said they were not and people who said they would come…and didnt. so not surprized. at least she gave you 100$.
Post # 8
@mchitt329: With the knot you have to reply for yourself and your guest so she would have to press the wrong button twice.
@AndysCraftsNmore: Exactly like going to club and gettign lost LOL. No she didn’t say goodbye to either me or my husband. Neither did she say hi to us. My husband said that to her when he was making his rounds during dinner.
Post # 9
Poor etiquette for her to show up without an RSVP, but I’m sure no harm was intended by it, and maybe there was a misunderstanding. I’m glad that things worked out okay; I’d just try to put it out of your mind as much as you can. I’m glad you didn’t have more guest list trouble than that!
Post # 10
@Lulume: Huh? Is she splitting up with her husband, and wanted to come without him, and that was her way of doing it without making an annoucement? That sure is odd.