(Closed) *YOUR* plan for a proposal (mr. bee’s or your own?)

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’m trying to be hush about it for now and to just be patient.  Also giving him space to miss me!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m not saying anything…i’m letting others drop the hints for me.  I think once I finally get a job the wait may be over.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well I try not to put pressure on him, but I do try to help him move the process along. I am discussing the future a lot but not specifically the engagement. Honestly though, some days I am impatient, and other days I’m like whatever, whenever. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I’m not the one pressuring my BF! My little siblings can’t go a visit without begging for him to propose! Both my little little brothers have offered to give him money to help out with a ring. The youngest one told him he better hurry up and do it! He told him to do it today….but that didn’t happen. So I’m still waiting but it’s really fun to see him get so much pressure from the fam!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I’m not bothering him about it. I decided to take more smaller vacations with my sister also. When I went on my cruise, he missed me so much and I could tell. (the sex was like RAWR!) I think by going away for a weekend or so, he’ll miss me more and see I’m not putting life on hold for him. I still got it.LOL 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Oh yes! Vacations with other gals/getting away for awhile is GREAT! You need the relaxation time anyway, to let it breathe especially if it’s been a sure subject.

Hobbies, hobbies, hobbies! And I have a friend visiting who I haven’t seen for 2 years (she moved out of the country), and my summer GF pool party tradition that I do with my best GF.  Incidentially, while I’m doing this BF will be at a wedding one of those weekends….lol!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t recommend this route for most people, but I logged into his email and sent him an email “to himself, from himself” with a link to an engagement ring. He asked a few months later.

A bit direct, but he had brought up getting married a couple years before and I was the one that wasn’t ready. (I was scared to get married because of getting divorced previously, and he also had brought it up during a time we were fighting a lot.)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MsMamaBear: LOL you go, mama!! Hahaha 🙂

Yeah pretty much just letting things play out for now… I know he wants to get engaged and he gets excited about our wedding plans when we talk about them, so I’m just giving him time to make a move. We are going to a wedding in a couple weeks, a close cousin of his, and I know all his family is going to be asking him about us. I’ll let them put the pressure on, and I’m just gonna cruise for now. Or at least try to. If we come up on 2 years this winter though and nothing has changed, I’m gonna tell him I want to live in my own place. Last time I brought up that possibility he actually cried (broke my heart!!) and told me the last thing he wanted for us was to be moving “backwards.” So… we’ll see I guess!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I take time to do my own stuff, like seeing friends and things like that. At the moment I am also studying towards a certificate in business accounting, which of course also takes up a few evenings a week.

I also don’t mention anything to do with engagement or the proposal. We talk about our future a lot, but not specifically the proposal or engagement.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My husband and I talked about getting married very early on in our relationship.  Due to other constraints it took us a while to get to a point when I was independent and we could get married.  After about 6 months I was seriously over the wait and basically gave him an ultimatum.  I wasn’t actually going to follow through with it but at some point I had to know if he was serious or not.  I told him that after July I was going to start looking to buy a “single person” house rather than a house for a family.  If we weren’t engaged by that point I saw no reason to buy a huge 3 bedroom house if there was a risk it would just be me by myself for a while longer. 

I know bugging guys isn’t good, but really a lot of them don’t think about it or worry about it like girls do.  I know he wanted to marry me he just was under no pressure to do it any time soon. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

littlemissmango- Shoot, I had to write about it in my private blog.LMAO

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I told my now-FI that if we weren’t engaged by my 26th birthday I was taking that as a sign he didn’t want to get married to me (we would have been dating for 4 years by that point).  But he proposed about a year earlier than that.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

My bf and I just spent a month ‘living together’ in a hotel and now I’m moving out of my parents and into an apartment of my own with my kittens (which he loves.) I think a new place of my own means that I won’t be able to spend all my weekends at his house anymore. So it’s going to be a little harder for him to see me outside of work. My hair dresser swears that after being that close for a whole month and then having it taken away will make him move things along.

We’ll see how it goes.

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