Post # 1
A little background: FI’s sister is one of my BMs. We are having a fairly small wedding (about 90 people) and it is mostly family with a few close friends. We are already limiting people and FI’s sister knows this as she and I have talked about it.
So, my Fiance came home just now and this is the first conversation we had:
Fiance: Oh, I forgot to tell you, my sister wants to bring someone to the wedding.
Me: Yeah, I know, I told her she can have a plus one for her new boyfriend.
Fiance: No, she wants to bring someone else.
Fiance: She wants to bring a couple that she is friends with. She already asked them.
Me: Ummmmm……. Do we know these people?
Me: (Insert rant about how apparently nobody knows how weddings work and that you cant just invite random people to someone elses wedding when they are paying almost $80.00 per plate!)
Am I being silly or is this crazy?
Post # 3
no you are not being silly, you dont just invite random friends to a party that you have been invited to as a guest, even if (or especially if) its a family members wedding – thats rude
Post # 4
@eloping: Exactly. Some people just don’t give a damn about anything beyond the tips of their own noses. Your Fiance needs to tell her she can’t have them since he was the one she told.
Post # 5
Psh. No. FI’s sister needs to be told to cool it with spending you guys’ money. I’d have Fiance tell her that no, she can’t bring an extra COUPLE, and she is in charge of informing them that it was her faux pas.
Post # 6
@AmeliaBedelia: Ditto. Fiance needs to let his sister know that this is a no-go, and she’s responsible for telling the friends. Sheesh, who does that!?
Post # 7
That’s ridiculous. you don’t just invite friends to someone elses wedding! Just call her up and politely tell her that you are having a small wedding and don’t want people you don’t know at your wedding.
Post # 8
oy — totally inappropriate. maybe she is young and doesn’t understand the misstep she is making? (in her mind, it’s an awesome party, and she wants to bring friends?) — still, definitely not ok and should be told so.
Post # 9
I am shocked at your sister in law! You are absolutely right, and should say something to her about it. This is your wedding not a weekend hangout!! “Some couple?” What is this a double date? unbelievable!
Post # 10
Yikes, that is completely ridiculous! I’m not sure how anyone would think that was okay to just invite a couple random people to a wedding. I would definitely have your Fiance tell her to squash that ASAP. You already told her she could have a +1, that’s sufficient.
Post # 11
I agree with PPs, you’re not being silly or crazy, and your Fiance should talk to his sister. That’s ridiculous.
Post # 12
I’m with the other ladies. Your Fiance needs to be the one to tell her that no she doesn’t have invite rights and if she wants them, then she needs to get engaged and start planning her own wedding! I can’t believe she thinks that’s ok!!
Post # 13
That is not ok and something my sister would do!
Post # 14
Oh, and the kicker! Apparently FI’s GRANDMA is the one that told him about it, not his sis. She thinks it’s not a bad idea since, “That will make up for all of your aunts, uncles and cousins that probably wont come”. So this is also how I found out that no one from his family is going to bother showing up. FML.
Looks like it will just be my family and a random couple that i don’t know! LOL!
Post # 15
@Leesh: lol how considerate of her to take your guest list into her hands!
Post # 16
i would hope the couple she invited would have the common sense not to take her seriously…