Post # 1
So last night my SO happened to see me on WB, I’ve not hidden it from him, but I do admit to being a bit vague about the site. Telling him I regularly post/read a forum about girl stuff, relationships, shoes, babies (I’m a children’s nurse so this wouldn’t phase him) home stuff, etc. But he saw the name of the site last night and said – “should I be worried you’re researching wedding things already”?! It started an honest conversation where I told him I joined WB during the engagement to my ex, and since then have found it to be a massive support. Anyway he doesn’t mind at all, and understands that it’s interesting to me.
But it got me thinking….
Does your SO know about WB, and do they care?
Post # 3
@Sparkidoodle: My FI saw me using the site about 2 months before we got engaged and he teased me a little then but I didn’t care. Then he proposed and he knows now that I’m on it all the time. If we are sitting on our couch on our tablets he will ask me if I’m Bee boppin and what the Bees are saying tonight. Lol. I share interesting or controversial threads with him too. He did ask me whether I ever used Weddingbee before he and I met and I said nope..didn’t even know about it!
ETA: My FI is a member of an outdoorsman forum which is all men and they talk about hunting and fishing mostly but also normal day to day stuff like us on the Bee. So we both spend lots of time in our online forums.
Post # 4
I tried to “hide” WB from my FI before we were officially engaged. I know there are waiting forums and all, and I could totally have explained it to him that way, but it just didn’t feel right. I didn’t want him to think I was getting ahead of myself.
Now he totally doesn’t mind my Bee habit at all- in fact if we’re discussing something wedding- or nesting-related and a question comes up, he will suggest that I ask the Bee!!
Post # 5
He knows, he sees it up on the screen. He never cared lol.
Post # 6
DH knows and sometimes tells me he doesn’t understand how I spend so much time on here but he doesn’t actually care.
Post # 7
My husband knows and doesn’t care. We discuss some of the things I see on this website sometimes. He wonders how I got so many posts so fast though and asks how much time I actually spend on here LOL
Post # 8
it’s really sweet that your SOs ask about what the hive is up to! LOL, and yes I can see us sharing threads and discussing them in future. So I am pleased he found out, but also a bit annoyed because I was doing so well at shutting it up since our timeline conversation at new year!
Post # 9
@Sparkidoodle: He knows, and doesn’t care. I specifically do not trash talk anyone I know on it, because I’m aware of how the internet isn’t really that anonymous. So if we got into a fight or something I’d never post about it on here, because it’s between me and him – I don’t even discuss those kind of things with my friends.
Post # 10
My Dh is sitting next to me as I type! He thinks it’s funny but I think I bug him sometimes reading funny comments or asking what he thinks of stuff!
Post # 11
@Sparkidoodle: DH knows and actually likes the fact I use it because then during wedding planning and now during pregnancy I don’t annoy him! Just kidding about that part, but sometimes its easier to talk to others who aree in the same boat as you and understand whereas DH sometimes doesn’t (such as for changes about my body during prengancy).
I have used it as a place to vent about my MIL. He knows that too and doesn’t care. He respects the outside prospective, and I don’t post anything on here that I wouldn’t say to anyone IRL.
Post # 12
@Sparkidoodle: My FI knows and he doesn’t care, but he does think it’s a little odd. He asked me last night if it’s like FB or what. So explained that. Before we got engaged I hid the fact that I was on here (I’m not sure why I bothered). But then he started getting suspicious when I clicked off every time he walked in the room. lol
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
He thinks I need to get a life- “Youre not getting married anymore!” He doesn’t seem to understand its about other things, too. Whatevs!
Post # 14
@sillysillybee: FI is ALWAYS on Georgia Outdoor Network (GON) which is pretty much the boys’ bee.
I tell him things that are interesting but he doesn’t know how MUCH I’m on
Post # 15
my DH knows and HE LIKES IT! i didn’t see that as an option. he thinks it’s a nice way to chat about all of the girly things that he doesn’t have the answers to and doesn’t care to hear about. lol he also thinks its entertaining. sometimes i read stories to him and he will actually say “well here’s my advice to her” lol.
i told him about the TTC board and he encouraged me to send a link to the board to his best friend (a lady) who is struggling with getting pregnant due to PCOS and some other health issues. so he sees this as a positive environment.
Post # 16
SO knows and thinks it’s a little weird since we’re a few years away from being engaged, but he doesn’t mind. 😛