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    Beronicab    May 1, 2010   St. George, UT

    Ok.. Long story short, the FI woke up one day and decided that he wants to change our wedding date sooner...(cute) BUT, he wants to do all the planning all the sudden... I love the fact that he wants to help, but he is doing planning behind my back. I would like to help pick things every once in a while.. I just think he is taking it to far. I feel as if my word does not even count. He said he would like to help plan so that I am not stressed, he is stessing me out BEING LIKE THIS... What do I do???

     
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    mrskesslertobe    September 18, 2010  

    You NEED to talk to him ASAP. I honestly think both the bride and groom should have equal say in wedding planning, andwould appreciate if my FI helped a little more. i don't think it is right for one person to have more say than another. Tell him that you want to do this together and make joint decision. sit and make a list of things that are importnat to both of you. If there are things that are really important to one and no the other have the other one take care of it and vice versa. 

     
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    rnc620    June 20, 2009   STL

    That's super cute.  But also super annoying.. lol.  We eloped and DH planned the entire wedding, talked to the coordinator, picked out music, location, etc.  Sometimes it makes me feel like I never even got married. I wish I would have gotten more involved. 

    I'd say sit him down and tell him that you want to start making all of the decisions together.  Or divy up the tasks.  You could make three columns

    1. Your decisions (dress, bm's, flowers, etc)

    2. His decisions (Tux, GM, DJ/band, etc)

    3. Combined decisions (decor, cake, minister, etc)

    Tell him that you both have to decide before anything can be okayed in the combined column. My mom used to say that everything in our house was a democracy and we had to vote before we could do something.. I think this philosophy might apply to your wedding nicely.  Good Luck!!

     

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