Post # 1
This week, I am tackling my wedding favors. Originally, I wanted to get little glass hummingbirds for the guests, as a tribute to my Caribbean origins, but I’ve had a lot of trouble finding what I want at a good price. The one company that carries EXACTLY what I need keeps giving me the run-around. Grr.
Anyway, I’ve been thinking, and I REALLY like the idea of charity favors. Specifically, the ASPCA (big animal activist here). Some of my more traditional acquaintances have scoffed at the idea of not actually giving the guests something they could take home and keep, so I wanted to hear your thoughts. Is it a snub to say, “We’re making a donation instead of giving you a trinket”, or do most of you get the same warm and fuzzy feeling I do when you know you’re helping a good cause?
Post # 3
I think that is a way cute idea. I love knowing that I helped someone. Your guests should get that warm feeling inside as well. I would do it, I love the idea.
Post # 4
Personally, I’d rather you give a donation to a charity than give me a glass hummingbird. I’m sure the hummingbird is nice, but I’d get it home and try to figure out what to do with it. If you’re looking for something guests can take with them, what about making a book mark or a post card or a little note that thanks them for coming and explains the donation?
Post # 5
We actually had a thread about this a month or so ago. I am not doing favors. I’m actually requesting that as gifts instead. With the invitation we’ll enlcose $___ coupon for a local charity in our area. Then when they send back their R.S.V.P. they’ll send us a check for that amount.
I think Sapphire____ sorry cant remember her whole name but she did that as favors. She even had a great inspiration pic.
The only thing I can suggest is to go through a local charity if possible. I brought up the concept that since ASPCA is such a huge organization and get huge publicity nation wide, they get a lot of donations. Granted, you can’t ever receive too much in donations. But also, since they have celebrities sponsoring them and give out free t-shirts and calanders and whatnot, they have a lot more over head to pay out. I can’t imagine that my full dollar goes to the dog that needs 2 surgeries.
Atleast with your local charity, you’re helping out your community. Majority of your dollar will go towards the medical,food,water,etc for them.
That’s just my two cents.
Post # 7
Okay, you asked. Personally, I have my own charities that I advoce for, champion and support. There are a gizzillion and one charities….and, while I do really like the cause of the ASPCA, not everyone might. Not everyone likes animals. I just personally do not equate a favor for guests being a donation to a charity of the bride and grooms choosing. If you want to donate, that’s cool, but I don’t see it as being a favor for your guests.
However, that said, I never expect a favor at a wedding. Getting a favor, or not getting a favor is not going to impact my life in any way. It’s your day, your wedding and you should totally do what makes you happy. If that is what you want to do, by all means go for it!!!!!
Post # 8
Thank you all! I’m going to look into some smaller animal welfare organizations, thanks WendyS328.
It’s true, a lot of people (me included) would take an ornament home and be like, “Okay, what now?” and it would inevitably end up forgotten/in the trash/packed away a few months later.
Post # 9
My FI and I are doing this. We are donating to Saint Jude’s Cancer Research, and to The Shriners. We both have had cancer take loved ones, and when I was 5 months old I needed an expensive hip surgery. My parents didn’t have the money so the Shriners donated the money for my surgery. I just felt this was an easy way of not wasting money. Most of the time I feel like those little favors get thrown out or forgotten.
Post # 10
I think it’s a fantastic idea. I worked catering (4-5 wedding/week) for nearly 7 years and I can say ladies… about half of the favors (or more) get left behind at most weddings. Unless they are super meaningful (e.g. the couple that brought back something from the archelogical dig) or chocolate/candy (most of which gets eaten at the reception), most people forget them. I think a donation is great.
Post # 11
I think it’s lovely and thoughful, particularly if the charity is chosen carefully and has a special significance for the bride and/or groom e.g. the American Heart Association if there has been a loss in the bride’s family due to a heart attack, for example.