Your thoughts on homeschooling/online school?

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
1609 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My brother and I were homeschooled. Our parents took us out of traditional school at 6th and 4th grade. Honestly, we loved it, and we both plan to homeschool our own kids. 

First, let me address one big thing. You do NOT have to have a degree in teaching to teach. Think of everything you already teach your son, walking, talking, tieing shoes, etc., homeschooling is just an extension of that. 

I need to get on a soapbox for the socialization thing. I’m so tired of people saying that homeschooled kids aren’t socialized! Think about this, where in the “real world” do you only socialize with people your own age? That’s what school is. My brother and I (along with most homeschoolers) socialize with people if all ages. We were part of a homeschool group, so we were around babies, young children, teenagers, even adults on a regular basis. That rarely happens in traditional schools. When you get out in the real world, like going to work, you work with people of all ages, not just ones who are the same age. 

Why not try homeschooling for a year? It’s not going to hurt to try it. I could go on and on, but my DD just woke up from her nap. Please PM me, I would love to discuss this more with you!

Post # 3
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

MrsEME:  i think whether you do homeschooling or traditional school is completely up to you and your husband, and what you guys feel comfortable with. after all, you can switch from one to the other if something’s not working. 

i do want to give you a head’s up on the homeschooling though: i work in admissions, and we require a standard high school diploma or ged for enrollment. i’ve had to turn away homeschool kids before because their program for homeschool didn’t meet standard state curriculum/accreditation requirements. that is not to say that we don’t accept any homeschool grads; quite the contrary, we have several. just make sure that the program you choose will meet standards for college and you’ll be good. 🙂

Post # 4
1683 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My siblings and I were/are all homeschooled from K-12.  My parents started simply because we would be moving mid-year when I was old enough for kindergarten and my mom figured she could teach me what I needed to know and I could start 1st grade in our new school system.  It just went from there and she’s now graduated 4 from home and has another 4 at home that she’s homeschooling now. 

From an academic standpoint – I loved it.  All of us have very different learning styles and by homeschooling us, she was able to cater it to how we learned.  As we got into high school, she adjusted it so that we were learning similar to how public high schools teach and all of us did fine.  All four of us that have already graduated went to college and made highest honors/honors all throughout.  For us, high school from Mom was harder than most of our college courses.  She used to work as an admin assistant for some executives, so she would correct all of our papers and none of us ever had a failing paper in college because of it.  She pushed us to do our best, not to beat ourselves up when we struggled, and to only turn in work that we were proud of.  For subjects that she struggled with herself, she would find us a teacher for that subject.  

From a socialization aspect, I completely agree with Fall_In_love.  We were part of homeschool groups that allowed us to interact with families of all ages.  Because of it, MANY people have complimented my mom on how all 8 of her kids interact with people so well.  My mom used to joke that it’s wasn’t homeschooling, it was vanschooling because we were always traveling somewhere for a group meeting.  We did ski days on the local ski hills in the winter, had roles in plays at the local opera house, did orchestra, vocal lessons and choir, my sister and I did college level courses our freshman year of high school with a group of students, we took French, speech, health, writing, art history, religion and debate classes through homeschool co-ops, etc. Socialization was never a concern!

I fully plan on homeschooling my children at least through elementary school.  From there, DH and I have talked about allowing them to choose where they would like to do middle school and high school.  

Homeschooling is not for everyone.  There are MANY stories online of homeschooling gone horribly wrong. And I know that not everyone will agree with my standpoint.  But, I’m proud to be one of the examples of homeschooling that was done well and I’m excited to continue that with my own children. 

Post # 5
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I think homeschooling can opffer a lot to a child. My DS does not fit into the regular school model. He’s just wired differently. Finally, now that he is in high school, he has developed sufficient coping techniques to make it work. But even so, it’s still a struggle for him. Ideally he would be “un-schooled”. No hard and fast curriculum to stick to. No tests to take. Let his interest at that time drive his learning. DS is a voracious reader who decided to learn everything he could about astro physics and quantum mechanics while in middle school. In high school he developed an interest in psychology and how the brain functions. He’s studied Japanese culture because it interests him, read poetry and Shakespeare for fun, and knows more about evolutionary biology than most adults. He’s a natrually inquisitive person, but he hates being told what he must lerarn and when. The structure of school just does not fit him.

However, I have a career that I’ve worked very hard to build, so he’s going to have to suck it up and deal. Traditional school does not harm him in any way. In fact, forcing him to work within a structured system is probably good practice for the rest of life. Could he have delved even deeper into his areas of interest via a homeschool model? Probably. Does it hurt that he learned about certain subjects in school for which he could not have cared less? Probably not. It’s whatever works for your family that matters in the end. For us, that means the traditional school model.

Post # 7
2896 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i don’t really have any advice, but i just want to say that the homeschooled kids that i’ve known are the nicest, most well-behaved, well-mannered kids i’ve ever met.

Post # 8
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MrsEME:  I think if done correctly and for the right reasons ( ie with outside support from tutors for subjects you arent an ‘expert’ in, field trips, supplemental ativities with other homeschool kids) its an amazing option! I would very much like to homeschool my kids for at least part of their education ( probably elementary and middle school)


Post # 9
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MrsEME:  I think if you involve your child in extra curricular activites like sports through a park district or something it will be fine. Also my old neighbors who homeschooled had a ‘group’ homeschool day once a week at a local park district or something where they did special activities to keep kids socializing. I thought their kids where normal ( the family was too religious for my taste but perfectly fine kiddos)

Post # 10
10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Here there are so many different education options that I feel like only a small minority would benefit from it.  I think independent study is a good options that offers some of the benefits that homeschooling does, while also incorporating the benefits from more traditional schooling.

I could be very biased, but the people I met in university who were homeschooled were really odd and did not fit in socially.  One of the guys was down right creepy.  Maybe they would be the same regardless, but I think that being in a school would have helped them out at least somewhat.

Post # 11
2798 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It would take a lot of research on different types of home schooling for me to be sold on it.  There is a lot that I think public school teaches you that you don’t learn in a home school environment, like how to deal with radically different people.  Even group home schools that I have seen tend to be pretty homogenous along a certain line (religion, social class, race)  Not that most public schools are very racially diverse, but since they need to take everyone, you are just going to run into more types of people. 

Post # 12
3623 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

MrsEME:  I think most parents are unqualified to be teachers. They don’t have the subject matter expertise in many subjects,  like math, science,  and history.  Even if they have the knowledge of the subject,  they probably don’t have experience or knowledge of how to teach the subject. I think the quality of your child’s education will suffer.  And that’s before we start discussing the social/non-academic benefits of school.

Post # 13
6668 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I know two families that homeschool their children and they are great. One of them is because the daughter has a processing disorder that makes it hard for her to be in a regular classroom. And then we have neighbors who homeschool their kids and they are weird as shit. They think they need to “protect” their kids from the world. I think that is a bad reason to homeschool.

Post # 14
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

From an academic standpoint, the biggest problem I have with homeschooling is math and science.  Actually, it’s even a problem in regular schools.  A parent or elementary teachers will say something about how math is hard or they didn’t like science, and the kid thinks that because those subjects are difficult, they won’t understand them.

So if you can’t handle being positive about math and science, stop now.  Do not homeschool.  I suppose this is true for all areas, but it’s very apparent in math and science.

At least that’s my opinion.

Post # 15
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Fall_In_Love22:  hogoboom2012:  Exactly what they said. 

To hit a few other points:

Math and science – don’t worry about them. You can use an “umbrella” school with counselors available to call for help, lesson plans provided, teacher support, and trained graders with degrees (my sister and the math counselor were on a first name basis and he got her through pre trig/calc/etc).   Or, you can get dual credit and take community college classes for the higher maths and sciences. Works fine. 

Homeschoolers are weird – this is due to three causes. 1) they’re just weird people and would be weird no matter what, or 2) they simply have different beliefs than you so you think they’re weird when they’re really just different.  For ex. My extended family thought we were totally weird religious nutjobs (now they think we actually came out very well haha!). They blamed half of this on homeschooking, but it had nothing at all to do with it. We’re Catholic…regardless of school. They got over it haha. 3) the parents are weird, think that the world is evil, etc. Kids have to do and lI’ve how their parents say so they appear weird. Also, there are probably many people you run into who are perfectly normal and were homeschooled. However, they’re normal and it doesn’t come up, so you’d never know. 

Lastly, don’t look at high school curriculums and get overwhelmed. There’a as much help out there as you want to get, and kids start small. I guarantee you can handle grade school and by the time you get to higher grades, you’ll be prepared. Most cities have homeschool support groups also. 

Second lastly (lol), the extra time is wonderful. My mom, siblings, and I are so close and I learned so much from being around her day to day that I wouldn’t trade any of it. Cooking, budgeting, marriage tips, you name it. Quantity time breeds quality time, and schooling at home is a good way to build quantity. 

Anyway, I’m all for it ;). It definitely isn’t for everyone, but I think that most kids and families can benefit. 

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