(Closed) Your thoughts on who should be my bridesmaids

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should my longtime friend that I've lost touch with be invited as a BM?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    10 %
    No : (28 votes)
    90 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’ve seen a lot of posts on BM drama. Most of the time, drama is due to asking someone who isn’t close to you. So for that reason, I’d leave her out. Just have an MoH.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7796 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think 3 years is too long to be out of touch. You yourself said: “we have such different interests we don’t really connect anymore”. By all means invite her as a guest, but I don’t think you are close enough now for her to be a BM.

    Post # 5
    Member
    968 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I DID ask a friend with a similar situation (lost touch somewhat after high school but kept in touch occasionally). She backed out early on due to being busy with going back to school, which I was a little sad about, but I invited her as a guest. She snuck out before dinner was even over at the reception. Based on that situation, don’t ask her, and don’t get your hopes up about how she will act at the event.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    My thought is that her reaction to your engagement is pretty indicative of how enthused/involved she would be able to be. I think when it comes to your wedding party, quality is much more important than quantity! 🙂

    Post # 7
    Member
    7 posts
    Newbee

    i think 2 years!

    Post # 8
    Member
    2545 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It’s cool that she sounds excited, but if she doesn’t have much time to talk about it now, what’s going to happen when you start to get really busy and need her to be available?

    My best friend was unavailable for most of my planning and it really affected our friendship – I felt like I was not a priority and that hurt. She ended our friendship immediately after the wedding.

    So my 2 cents is: stick with family or only people that you are sure will be there for you. Remember these people will forever be in your wedding pictures – so make sure you want them in them regardless.

    Post # 9
    Member
    8473 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I voted no.  If she isn’t in your life for the most part, leave her out.  Invite her as a regular guest.  If she confronts you about it, tell her the truth.  When in doubt, throw it out!

    I, myself, don’t have a lot of close girlfriends either.  My bridal party was very small. 

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